
Why Change Feels Hard
and How to Fix It
Ep. 590 with Lesley & Brad
“When you don’t dream big… you’re giving yourself an out to fail and be satisfied with the results of the fail.”
Brad Crowell
Bio
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Shownotes
Lesley Logan and Brad Crowell unpack the biggest takeaways from mindset coach Brad Bizjack, diving into what it really takes to create change that lasts. They reveal why perfectionism often hides behind the need for certainty, and how emotional leverage—not time—sparks transformation. Through real talk, personal stories, and practical takeaways, they show how knowing your “why” makes the “how” reveal itself.
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In this episode you will learn about:
- How “certainty” disguises itself as perfectionism and quietly fuels procrastination.
- The real reason small, safe actions keep you from meaningful progress.
- What crossing the “line of lasting change” actually looks like in real life.
- Why unreasonable dreams push you to take bolder, smarter action.
- How doubt, pain, and vision each spark identity-level transformation.
Episode References/Links:
- Winter Tour – https://opc.me/tour
- Cambodia Retreat Waitlist – https://lesleylogan.co/retreats
- Pilates Journal Expo – https://xxll.co/pilatesjournal
- Contrology Pilates Conference in Poland – https://xxll.co/poland
- Contrology Pilates Conference in Brussels – https://xxll.co/brussels
- Submit your wins or questions – https://beitpod.com/questions
- Brad Bizjack’s Success Accelerator – https://beitpod.com/success
- The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenkins Reid – https://a.co/d/4LmmMXA
- The Empyrean Series by Rebecca Yarros – https://a.co/d/b1VxT1N
- Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It by Kamal Ravikant – https://a.co/d/e1J9w2Y
- Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg, PhD – https://a.co/d/4Ov1GNX
- Women Waking Up by Wendy Valentine – https://a.co/d/08CWFHo
- Missionary Position by Celeste Holbrook – https://a.co/d/gXQBKee
- The Cycle of Galand by Edward W Robertson – https://a.co/d/94ZvPV4
Transcript
Brad Crowell 0:00
Change does not take a long time to do. It actually happens in an instant when you have the leverage to create that change. For example, people in painful relationships who know they should take different action, but they don’t, until something happens and all of a sudden the lever is actually pulled, right?
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Lesley Logan
Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I’m Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I’ve trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it’s the antidote to fear. Each week, my guests will bring Bold, Executable, Intrinsic and Targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It’s a practice, not a perfect. Let’s get started.
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Lesley Logan 1:01
Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co-host in life, Brad, and I are going to dig into the compelling convo I had with another Brad. This is Brad Bizjack in our last episode. If you haven’t yet listened to that one, you did not get your life spiced up. You did not get extra dose of energy. You, you you need to, you have to go back.
Brad Crowell 1:21
You’re officially missing out.
Lesley Logan 1:22
So you’ll listen to us talk about him, and then go listen to that one. But you can’t skip that one.
Brad Crowell 1:27
Cannot skip it. It’s a great interview, a great episode. Brad Bizjack is, he is, is very educated on emotional maturity.
Lesley Logan 1:38
I think that’s a good way of discussing it, yeah.
Brad Crowell 1:40
And he, he explains in his programs, which Lesley and I have been students of, how we have connected the dots on things in a way that puts undue pressure on ourselves, right? So like success or security or all these amazing things that like we want and need and desire. But then, what is the like if we haven’t laid it out properly, we end up feeling scared or afraid, or like a lot of pressure and all this kind of stuff. And that’s why this his conversation was very compelling, because he also uses amazing.
Lesley Logan 2:20
Acronyms. No, examples.
Brad Crowell 2:23
Yeah examples and quips like short statements that are very thought-provoking. Loved it. Fantastic.
Lesley Logan 2:31
No notes.
Brad Crowell 2:32
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Lesley Logan 2:34
Well, we’re gonna get into that in a second. But first Today is October 16th, National Spirit Day. Spirit Day is an annual observance that takes place on the third Thursday in October, and that’s on October 16th this year. This day aims to create awareness for the bullying harassment that the LGBTQ community faces. Millions of people worldwide, identified as queer, and many more are yet to publicly declare their status. Such a large community, people shouldn’t be alienated or marginalized just because of theire sexual orientation. But the reality, sadly, is that they are. All over the world, LGBTQ youth suffer harassment because of their identity. There is also a need for transgender individuals to have more protected rights. And so, you know, taking some time today to just see what’s going on in your community and how you can support. I would even look up the people who are wanting if you’re especially if you in a country where you can vote, look who’s saying terrible things about these people and don’t vote for them, period. Because here is the deal, it’s not going to stop with them. It won’t stop with them. If they take away all the rights of LGBTQ, where you live, they’re not going to be like now we have the power we want, no, they’ll come for someone, next.
Brad Crowell 3:43
But it didn’t start with them. That’s the thing. And I think, I think that’s the it’s a misnomer that like, oh, wow, they’re a huge problem. No, they’re only a huge problem because they’re the current topic of conversation, and they’re and the problem is, is being well, it’s being created in a way that it’s not real. Right? So they’re making it a problem. They’re they’re pretending that it’s a problem because they need somebody to to alienate,
Lesley Logan 4:07
Yeah, someone ha,s to be the thing that we all fear. And look, the word homosexual was not in the Bible till 1946, interesting, because I thought that was a work of of words that’s been around for thouosands of years, right? So it was put in there to make you scared, to make you conform. And then in the 80s, they used the AIDS epidemic to get you scared and afraid of people and not even wanting to hug people. And now they want to make us all worried about the fucking sports. No one gave a rat’s ass about women’s sports and tell trans and there’s like, 10 people in the NCAA sports that are trans. And when you there was a swimmer who was asked, like, are you worried about trans women in sports? She’s just like, no, I’m worried about Republicans becoming Nazis. And I loved that quip. I loved it, because the reality is, is that, like, they’re trying every. All of this is to scare you that there’s someone different than you that is trying to take something away from you. And the reality is, is that, like bullying is rampant amongst everything. There is, I get bullying of I don’t look this enough. I look too much of this. There’s, everyone has it. But the reality is, is that there’s a community that’s getting it more right now, and it is dangerous. It’s dangerous because we know that bullying costs lives. People, especially youth, will take their own lives and so it’s.
Brad Crowell 5:31
Dangerous on multiple levels. It’s dangerous if there’s an immediate danger, right? And that immediate danger is for people who are in the community that is being targeted. And currently what we’re talking about is the LGBTQ community, but there’s the, there’s, that’s the immediate danger, and then the long term danger is societally, right, because they aren’t gonna, you know, somehow, like, it’s not gonna stop with this community. When, when, when something, when, when the the public perception is finally, like, actually, we don’t agree with you. Okay, then they’re like, oh well, there’s another community we need to be worried about, and they’re just going to shift over to another community. They’ve done it. They’ve done it over and over and over and over.
Lesley Logan 6:10
Yeah, they always do. It was the witches before this, which was just another word for women. And so my I bring, not to bring you all down, because we’re gonna bring you back up again in just a second. But like, you have agency here. You can call your congress person. You can make sure that the school is do is taking action. You can also educate yourself, in case you have family members who are upset about it. Like there are ways to actually being in curiosity and ask the right questions that help them understand, you know, what is, to find out what are they afraid of? What are they so afraid of? And then we have to just also start loving more, because the other thing is, is that we just start getting mad at homophobic people, and that puts hate in our heart, and it doesn’t make us any better than them. And so anyways, go observe Spirit Day. I love it.
Brad Crowell 7:03
Yeah.
Lesley Logan 7:04
Okay, we’ve announced the OPC tour, opc.me/tour so you can see all the dates. I would list all the cities off for you, but I don’t have them today, while we’re recording this. So they’re up now, though they’ve been up for a couple of weeks, and you want to grab your spot. If you have any questions, let us know. But all workshops and workouts are for any lover of Pilates, new to very experienced and there are CECs, Balance Body is our sponsor. We are so, so excited about it. We’re getting closer to you needing to be on that waitlist for Cambodia, because in January, you’re gonna get the email that says, hey, hey, you want to get a discount on this? You’re the only person who gets it if you’re on the waitlist. We’re in Cambodia right now.
Brad Crowell 7:42
Yeah, actually, literally, Lesley and I are currently in Cambodia hosting a second retreat this year. Next year, we will only be having one retreat to Cambodia, and it will be in the fall, in October of next year, right? So if you want to be one of the group of people that can come, because it is limited, you got to be on the waitlist. Go to lesleylogan.co/retreats, that’s plural, to get yourself on the wait list, you can find out all more more information on crowsnestretreats.com. But we will be making an announcement here soon, in January, about the early bird special. So prepare, stay prepared for that.
Lesley Logan 8:17
Even if you hear it here, you still have to have the link in the email. So get on the waitlist. In a couple days, we’re going to be in Singapore teaching a private event, and finally, seeing the Botanical Gardens. We’re so, so excited about it.
Brad Crowell 8:29
I’m so fired up about that.
Lesley Logan 8:30
We’ve seen them from, like, a high up view, but we haven’t actually been in them. And then, of course, we’ll be on our winter tour. So that’ll be five weeks long, almost like five weeks long, and then we come home for to unpack, and then we go to Huntington Beach to the Pilates Journal Expo, xxll.co/pilatesjournal, we’ll get you links. We’ll get you linked to the tickets.
Brad Crowell 8:52
Yeah, go to xxll.co/pilatesjournal.
Lesley Logan 8:55
There’s a ton of people who are going to be there. I’m really excited about it. It’s going to be like a reunion for me and some of these friends. So I can’t wait, so you should come. And then in March, we’re doing the Poland Controlology Pilates Conference. So Karen Frischmann and I are back in Wroclaw. Sorry, my Polish peeps, if I said that wrong, people try to teach you (inaudible) which is not it. It is not even close, I was like, but it’s easier to say, it’s like, well, that’s not the name of your town. So we’ll be there teaching a conference together, and then from there.
Brad Crowell 9:23
So go to xxll.co/poland yeah.
Lesley Logan 9:28
And then Karen, Brad and I are gonna like to-to-to through Europe until the following weekend. We’ll be in Brussels. xxll.co/brussels.
Brad Crowell 9:37
What do you think weigh in here, should we be saying xxll.co or should we be saying double X, double l dot co? What do you like? Think. Double X, double L? Double x, double l dot co.
Lesley Logan 9:47
No, that’s too hard.
Brad Crowell 9:49
Double X double L.
Lesley Logan 9:49
Because people might actually type in double.
Brad Crowell 9:53
They might.
Lesley Logan 9:53
They, our listeners would.
Brad Crowell 9:55
But I, IKYKY.
Lesley Logan 9:58
Yeah, but people say that. No one says.
Brad Crowell 10:01
Double x, double l dot co. I’m making it a thing.
Lesley Logan 10:04
No, xxll.co/brussels.
Lesley Logan 10:07
I let you make OPC a thing. No, this is xxll.co or it should be xxll.co, maybe not saying the C-O, because the problem is, it just sounds like too many letters, and then I get overwhelmed. So at any rate, it’s also in the show notes, you can just click it, Brussels. These are both in March, and then in April, we’ll be at P.O.T. in London.
Brad Crowell 10:27
Looking forward to that.
Lesley Logan 10:28
Alright, we had an incredible question that was really fun, and, like, got us all chatting in the studio in between classes. Brad, so I thought I would bring the attendees from Essex question, because I just thought, let’s talk about this.
Brad Crowell 10:42
That’s so fun. Okay, the question was, what non-Pilates books do you read?
Lesley Logan 10:48
A lot.
Brad Crowell 10:49
Okay.
Lesley Logan 10:49
I don’t read very many Pilates books anymore. I mean, there’s only a couple good ones. So, okay.
Brad Crowell 10:54
So let’s talk about it. Do you prefer a specific type of genre of non-Pilates books?
Lesley Logan 11:00
I love a good popcorn book. You know, a popcorn for your brain book. That’s how my friend Sue and I talk about, like.
Brad Crowell 11:04
What does that mean? Just like.
Lesley Logan 11:05
You read the book and you get lost and like, it is not going to change the world. It’s definitely not going to change your life. You can almost consume the book in like, two or three days. It’s, it doesn’t make, change your intelligence in any way. But it’s like, it’s like a little popcorn for your brain. The books are like, that would signify that as, like, The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo, that author, so good, that book, I read it in two days. I was like, I never have time to read. Right in two days, I have fucking plenty of time to read if I like the book. I don’t. So I like that kind of genre, like a rom-com type book is like my go to but you and I are really into the Empyrean series. And I.
Brad Crowell 11:45
We sure are.
Lesley Logan 11:45
So I post. So I shared with this group. I said, oh, I’m deep in the Imperium series, because it’s, like, a great way to, like, get lost in something. And the girls were like, The Fourth Wing, and I’m like, Yeah, I’m in. And they were like, okay, I’ve heard it’s really good. So it’s only making its way to the U.K. right now. At any rate.
Brad Crowell 12:03
The Empyrean. E-M-P-Y-R-E-A-N
Lesley Logan 12:05
Yeah, so, Rebecca Sorrows.
Brad Crowell 12:07
And yeah, no. Yarros. Rebecca Yarros, yeah.
Lesley Logan 12:12
But I get this, so Yasmeen, she posted a picture and tagged me with The Fourth Wing and Tiny Habits. And she said, my recommended reading and I was like, never has anyone ever put those two books in the same like Recommended Reading section, for sure. So I shared it, and someone else was like, oh, are you reading that series? I said, Oh, I definitely am, and I recommend it all the time. And I got a recommendation for another series that’s really good. So I haven’t read it yet, so I can’t tell you about it, but it’s really quite fun to see how many people are in the (inaudible) people are into it. It’s very, very good, look, it’s, it’s, it’s gonna be it’s like, what is it like, called? Romantic fantasy or it’s like, what’s the genre? Because it’s fantasy, but it’s not, if you don’t read it with your kids, so it’s got to have, like, another letter, another word. So while he’s looking that up, I.
Brad Crowell 13:03
They call it new adult fantasy romance or military fantasy.
Lesley Logan 13:07
That’s, no, that’s, I would call it adult fantasy. That’s what I would put it under. And it’s great. I really, really like it. It’s from a female, like, hero perspective.
Brad Crowell 13:17
Oh, they call it romantasy.
Lesley Logan 13:19
Romantasy. That’s a better, that’s good, that’s romantasy. I also, other books that I recommend that are non-Pilates, Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It, obviously said Tiny Habits, The Big Leap you’re never getting out of that one that was a must read every year. And I, I think we have some authors who had some books come out. Wendy Valentine had a book come out, The Midlife something. And Dr. Celeste had her book come out on like, Missionary Position. So I would say, like, if I’ve had an author on the pod with a book, I’ve probably read their book. Or if their book’s not out yet, I read it afterwards. And I love those people so much, of course, I’m gonna love their book. But I also recommend, if you’re always reading business books, you got to get into the romantic, fantasy. Romantasy.
Brad Crowell 14:00
Romantasy.
Lesley Logan 14:01
You do you got to get lost in something. Life is too serious. So anyways, those are my non-Pilates books that I can recommend to you right now.
Brad Crowell 14:09
Okay, I have gotten into a new author recently. His name is Edward W Robertson.
Lesley Logan 14:16
Why does he need a W? His last name is so long.
Brad Crowell 14:21
He has written 73 books.
Lesley Logan 14:23
There’s 73 books in the series?
Brad Crowell 14:25
There are, no, he’s written multiple series about different things, but I have read 14 books of his so far. Oh, there’s a whole nother one. No, I’ve read 17 books of his. So I’ve read the Cycles. He’s got three Cycles, Cycles of Galland, Arawn and Scour, and basically they are perfectly in line with the other books I’ve talked about over the years on this pod. They are definitely a fantasy.
Lesley Logan 14:48
Like Wheel of Time.
Brad Crowell 14:50
Right. That’s Robert Jordan, and there’s another author I’m a big fan of, Michael, Michael J, What’s his last name? Sullivan. Michael J. Sullivan. But this is Edward W Robertson. And what I what I really enjoyed about this was he’s also created his own, you know, dynamic duo of these, you know, unlikely heroes, their kids in the in this, they start off in their late teens, and they, you know, end up becoming major players on the world stage over the, you know, length of these 10 books in the one series. The one cycle series is kind of the precursor to it. Another one is a double precursor to it. So he started off.
Lesley Logan 15:27
I’m going to tell you, you overwhelm people when you said 14 books (inaudible).
Brad Crowell 15:31
Sorry, just listen to them. It doesn’t matter. There, it’s not even about that. It’s not about finishing them. There’s just something really enjoyable about them. I think, I think it went through them in like, six or eight months, because they’re, they’re shorter than the the Wheel of Time stuff, you know?
Lesley Logan 15:46
Well, there you go. And so there are your books. You guys get lost in a book, I promise you. It’s it makes.
Brad Crowell 15:51
You’re gonna love it.
Lesley Logan 15:52
It’s so much more fun. You like different person on the other side. Okay. And also, if you don’t want to spend money on it, go to your public library and get a library card. You can actually get audio books and iPad books through your local library. Okay?
Brad Crowell 16:07
Yes, you can. If you have any questions for us, you should text them to us. Text them at 310-905-5534, or you can send them in through beitpod.com/questions beitpod.com/questions or you can leave a win or a question and who knows they might end up on the pod.
Lesley Logan 16:23
We need some wins.I want to share them on the pod. Okay, let’s talk about Brad Bizjack.
Brad Crowell 16:29
Well, stick around. We’ll be right back. We’re going to talk about Brad Bizjack, and we’re going to be reinvigorated by his enthusiasm for life. The guy is just amazing. So can’t wait. Stick around.
Brad Crowell 16:42
Welcome back. Let’s talk about Brad Bizjack. Brad is a personal development expert and coach who helps people rewire limiting beliefs, toxic thought patterns and emotional blocks that have been holding them back from success and the fulfillment that they deserve. After starting his career buried in $92,000 worth of debt and struggling for years to get his business off the ground, Brad discovered the power of shifting identity and mindset. Today, he has built a multimillion dollar business served over 70,000 people worldwide, and teaches others how to break free from perfectionism, procrastination and fear so they can step fully into their potential. And I gotta say, there’s nothing more be it than the things that he’s teaching. It’s amazing when you dig in. And Lesley and I have been we’ve gone through two of his programs.
Lesley Logan 17:32
Yeah, he’s got a program starting next week, so.
Brad Crowell 17:34
Yeah, literally next week. And it’s free.
Lesley Logan 17:37
It’s free.
Brad Crowell 17:37
Yeah, you should totally do his free program.
Lesley Logan 17:39
Five days.
Brad Crowell 17:40
We started there.
Lesley Logan 17:41
And also it’s like, it happens in the morning for us. So obviously, in the you know, if you’re not in Pacific, it’s not early morning, it’s gonna be some other time. But it was really nice to start in the morning. We go for a dog walk, and just be like, lit up on this dog walk. And you’re like, yeah, I’m ready. And I, anything you say, like, oh, I can’t do I don’t know, or I got this, I can’t do it. I’m stuck. I won’t know how to do it. Well, he really kind of, like, breaks down, like, some of these stories we tell ourselves, and one of the things he says is, like, when you know what you want and why you want it, the how reveals itself. When you know what you want and why you want it, the how reveals itself. And.
Brad Crowell 18:18
Yeah, because it, because, I think that’s.
Lesley Logan 18:20
I think most people don’t know why.
Brad Crowell 18:22
Yeah, but I think the easiest thing for people to get stuck on is, how am I going to do that? I might as well not even try.
Lesley Logan 18:28
Right. Because, but also, I think they, they know one of the two, but not both, like they know why they want to do something, or they know what they want to do, but they don’t know both and their why is so superficial? Well, because I want to make money. And it’s like, okay, well, why do you want to make money? Like, you gotta, like, why do you want to do it? Like, I told the story in the U.K. about, like, why I love to teach Pilates, you know? Like, what my mission is. Why is my mission this? And then Linda was like, can you repeat that? And it was like, really cute. It was a long story, but the whole thing is, like, I’m so passionate about what that is. It makes it the h does reveal itself, because opportunities come up or like, people say, say something, and you’re like, wait a minute, that is an entirely different industry. But I could do it like the how reveals our tours happen because we knew what we wanted to do. We knew why we wanted to do it. And then this person over here is like, I want to go on a book tour. I’m like, how can we go on a book tour? Right? So, like, I really, really love that. And then we talked about, like, he believes we get so caught up in seeking the how, but struggle to take action. And so it’s just procrastination in disguise. And then he said this occurs because of overvaluing certainty. And man.
Brad Crowell 19:41
This is like, this was like a mic drop, you know, the overvaluing of certainty. You know what that is, that’s actually like, we think that having certainty is going to help us move forward, but when we, before, we get to the place where we feel certain, we get stuck.
Lesley Logan 20:02
Or we, he said, like, we take little actions because we’re very certain we can do those little things, but we don’t take the big actions because we don’t know what’s going to happen with those. We don’t know how that’s going to play out or what the outcome will be. So we’re like, oh, I’m just going to keep checking the box, checked my email, responded to these people, post it on social, but we’re not, no one’s actually like, okay, I’m gonna do a class. I’m gonna do pilates and (inaudible) like, because, like, no one comes. Like, I need to make sure everyone’s gonna be there. Everything is certain. And oh my god, when we study with him, we did this five day series that you can do next week. We did a couple years ago. And when he told me about certainty and perfectionism. I fucking was like, I felt so called out. I was like, oh my god, this is my problem. I was like, recovering perfectionist. But then I like, let certainty in there. And certainty is just perfectionism, guys. So anyways, I have I really love this man so much. And he said we base our worth on external success, leading to a feeling of burnout, or that nothing feels like enough. And I think this happens a lot. In fact, on an OPC call today, one of the girls who’s going through a teacher training so that she feels like burnt out on Pilates, and, you know, she’s doing this thing, and we were talking about how like, because when you’re in a training program, there’s a lot of corrections, like the teachers are correcting you a lot because they want you to know all the things. They don’t want you going off thinking you’re perfect at it. They want you to know how to do it. You know, you thinking you’d have all these cues. And really it’s all this external success, like, okay, when I look like the 100 I have made it, versus this internalization of like the Pilates practice, like the focus in a teacher training is so external. What does the exercise look like? Can you do it well that you end up feeling burnt out and like nothing’s ever enough, like you’re not good enough to do this. And so I just this, just happened an hour before we hit the record on this. And I feel this so so much, because we’re, like, waiting for someone to validate who we are and what we’re doing, instead of ourselves, like an internal version of, like, what success is. I love this.
Brad Crowell 22:11
So, just so that y’all know, we actually have an invitation for you to join Brad’s program, the five day program for free, that’s called the Success Accelerator, and it starts in just a few days.
Lesley Logan 22:21
It’s on the 20th, so it’s, this is Thursday. It’s gonna start on Monday.
Brad Crowell 22:26
The link’s in the show notes, but you can go to beitpod.com/success, and like I said, it’s free. Lesley and I did this program, and it was really, really impactful for us.
Lesley Logan 22:36
Well, what did you like that he said?
Brad Crowell 22:38
Yeah. So, Brad said, I just, I love that you had to clarify Brad husband versus Brad Bizjack on the call, I was laughing.
Lesley Logan 22:49
I know, because I think I told a story, and I was like, my Brad husband.
Brad Crowell 22:52
Yeah, yeah. Brad said, hey, change does not take a long time to do. It actually happens in an instant when you have the leverage to create that change, for example, people in painful relationships who know they should take different action, but they don’t, until something happens and all of a sudden the lever is actually pulled, right? That leverage comes from changing at a higher, more fundamental level than just behaviors or capabilities, you can you can say when you have to change, when you are forced to change, right? And I think it’s interesting, that’s actually where lasting change comes above the line of lasting change. I don’t know why. Like, I don’t basically.
Lesley Logan 23:39
Oh, it’s because, like, people often, like, change, and they do a little thing and they go back. They like as, like, if there’s a line, and, like, you got to cross the line, and people think, oh, it’s gonna take forever to make this change. Like, it’s gonna take forever to create a habit. And so they think it’s gonna take forever to create a habit, and they do it for two days, and they end up on the other side of not having the habit. And then they have a couple days of habit, and it’s actually like no, if you know who you what you want, why you want it, and you make the decision to change, you can actually change it, because it’s an emotional thing in your brain that does this.
Brad Crowell 24:10
Yeah, I, I’ve personally experienced this kind of requirement for change. This must change or bad things will happen when it came to smoking cigarettes, and everyone talks about how addicting, you know nicotine is, and they’re not wrong, because unless you absolutely have to change, you probably won’t, because it is addicting and it will pull you back in but I was singing and I was in a band, and I was smoking cigarettes, and I remember being on stage coughing into the mic because I couldn’t sing my own songs that I had written. And it became immediately clear that day I have to choose, do I want to keep smoking, or do I want to keep singing? And that was, like, so easy to decide, because I was like, well, I love singing. I love being in a band. So therefore, goodbye smoking, you’re gone, and that was it. That was like, the moment of, I must, I made it above the line of lasting change, and, and, and also, too, you know, sure, did I still have these moments of like, you know, like, like, habit of like, when I used to, you know, where I would be smoking on the card, right into the opposite, whatever, you know where it was. It was just a regular, consistent thing, and I was missing that, yes, but because it was like an easy thing to know I I actually want to sing. I want to sing more than I want to smoke in those moments of trial, it was still easy for me to fall back on the decision I had made, because it was an emotional decision. I was terrified of the idea that I wouldn’t be able to perform, you know. So, you know, there, there is like this moment of have to do that will bring about that change, you know. So yeah.
Lesley Logan 25:52
And I think that goes back to like you knew what you wanted and why you wanted it, and that made it, the how easier.
Brad Crowell 25:57
I knew what and I knew why and then so the how involved not smoking, and that is what made it easy to do, yeah, that’s a great, great callback there. I love that. So yeah, we love a callback. Yeah, that was impactful for me. And these are the kinds of things that Brad addresses, you know, on the five days. So, you know, definitely go check that out.
Lesley Logan 26:18
I just think that like if you are, if you were lit up at all by his episode, why not? It’s free. There’s no replays like, why wouldn’t even if you watch one day of his stuff, next week, you’re going to learn something about yourself that’s going to change your life. I still think about like the things that we learned in those five days, even if we didn’t pay for the program, like, I still like, like, I was forced to, like, level up in a way, like I was, like, it was great.
Brad Crowell 26:48
Yeah, yeah, the Success Accelerator. And then we went on to do another program of his called Rewired After, but the Success Accelerator was absolutely worth it, and yeah.
Lesley Logan 26:59
Especially if you just, like, are going if you just have a hard time not talking yourself down, you need someone in your ear who talks you up. You just do. Anyways, we got to get into the Be It Action Items.
Brad Crowell 27:09
Yeah, okay, stick around. We’ll be right back. We’re gonna dig into these epic Be It Action Items from Brad Bizjack, we’ll be right back.
Brad Crowell 27:16
All right, finally, let’s talk about those Be It Action Items. What bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your convo with Brad Bizjack, I’m going to jump in first here. He said he shared three primary ways to shift any belief pattern, and these are the things where I was talking about the have to do. So it was really interesting. He said you can introduce the idea of doubt, you can introduce pain, or you can introduce vision, right? And I think that vision is probably the easiest to talk about, right? That’s the one that we.
Lesley Logan 27:48
It feels more positive.
Brad Crowell 27:49
It does feel more positive, you know. But doubt is something that will challenge a worldview, right? You know, when you have doubt, or when doubt is introduced, it really does start to make you analytical, analyze the thing that you might be doubting. You know, whether that is the way you were raised, or we’ve always done it this way, or this is the quote-unquote, right way to do it, or the right thing to do. You know, maybe there are other things that you know that that cause doubt. He suggested looking for evidence that challenges those beliefs. For example, if you think money is super hard to make, you can ask yourself the question, but is is that true for everyone? Some people have the the golden touch, as it were, right? We’ve all heard that, that expression, well, if money isn’t hard to make for them, why? How come it’s easy for them, but difficult for me, quote-unquote, difficult for me, right? Maybe that’s the story I’m telling myself. Right? So how do we change that belief since we have evidence that it’s that other people have been able to do it. So that’s an interesting idea of introducing the concept of doubt. Two, pain. He said if you can see the consequences of what happens if you don’t change and actually live those consequences in your mind, you will start to change. This was my lived experience. Pain, right? I did not want the pain of not being able to perform, not being able to sing, and I could see a life that I did not want if I kept going down the path that I was going out when it came to cigarettes, right? He used the Christmas carol story as an example for this. Scrooge didn’t want to make unbearable pain. Didn’t want to make change until unbearable pain was linked to staying the same, right? That’s the Christmas story. Vision, finally, explain that the your beliefs shift when we create a vision that is vivid enough to excite us into new action, right? So, so like this is where a dream board can come into play, or, you know, vision casting, or you know, reflection, or taking a moment of to yourself, to, you know, to dwell on what the future could look like for you. You know that that can be motivating enough to create lasting change, to put you above that line of change. He said when we can be compelled by a beautiful vision of the future, it gives us a reason to overcome procrastination, or whatever it is that’s holding us back, right? So I love that. I thought that was actually, I mean, these are the kinds of things that he just blows by, and why we wanted to talk about him again, because I listened to it, and I was like, whoa. That was, that was a lot right there. That was probably like, you know, he probably studied for like, six to 12 months to be able to concisely say that in two sentences and three sentences, and you were like, there’s so much in there, we kind of have to break this down. This when you’re when you listen back to the pod, there’s so many snippets like that where you’re like, whoa, that was profound. Whoa, that was deep. Whoa, that was really worth listening to twice. What about you, though? What was one of your biggest takeaways?
Lesley Logan 30:40
So you have to be compelled by a beautiful vision of the future. You really do have to take that’s why I like to do our retreats. I like to do some breath work, and like actually think about a year from now. But you need a beautiful vision of the future, because that’s so compelling. And he also said, you otherwise will default to focusing on the past and the present. And people do this a lot.
Brad Crowell 31:00
Sure.
Lesley Logan 31:01
And it’s why you’re not actually seeing change, because the past and the present don’t like that’s that’s done, and if you keep repeating it, you just get to keep repeating them. But it often becomes more painful because you didn’t like, you liked part of it, or we didn’t like it at all, and like now here you’re feeling a little stuck. He also his bold advice is to have unreasonable dreams, unreasonable, unreasonable, and I do. It’s really hard for my brain to do unreasonable dreams. It’s extremely hard. But also, like it does force you to think about how you’re going to achieve that in a different way, because it’s so easy to go back to we talked about that itty bitty stuff, and like thinking it’s gonna make a big difference, when really it’s just keeping you the same. You kind of have to have an unreasonable dream, because it helps you take bigger action. And then he said taking full responsibility for making that happen. And that, taking full responsibility for making that happen.
Lesley Logan 31:54
Wait, say that one more time.
Lesley Logan 31:56
Taking full responsibility for making that happen. Whenever I do my schedule workshop or my habits workshop, the amount of people that are responsible for the reason why someone can’t go for a walk in the morning.
Brad Crowell 32:09
Oh, you mean the amount of excuses slash other people are the problem.
Lesley Logan 32:14
Other people are.
Brad Crowell 32:14
Not, not the person who’s.
Lesley Logan 32:16
Yeah, not the person who like has allowed people to take advantage of them, or they’ve been doing too much for other people, or they simply just didn’t have, like, the vision in place to take the it’s okay, it’s okay to have gone like, oh, my god, I never realized I wanted to do that. And I have been making time for that, like, it’s okay. You didn’t. You know when you know better, you do better. So now you just got to take full responsibility for making that happen.
Brad Crowell 32:39
Yeah, I love that I love the this is, this is step three, or the third, you know, way to create change, you know, with the vision casting, you know. And I think it’s scary to dream big in that way, to have an unreasonable dream, it can be really scary because, you know, you I, I, this is part of my story on our business why we you know. When you don’t, when you don’t dream big, what you’re actually doing is you’re, you’re giving yourself an out to fail and be satisfied with the results of the fail, and that’s where I think the problem is. I think it’s important to fail. You must fail, right. But we associate failure with mediocrity and pain, right? Instead of learning knowledge and a step further along the path towards success. When we associate failure with pain and mediocrity. It’s easier not to have a vision for the future, because then you can’t experience that quote-unquote, pain, right? And I know I did this because I would leave myself an out and say things like, it’ll be nice if that ever happened for us, you know. But, but the but then it’s like, you know, I would love for that to happen for us, but there’s an inherent comma. But if it doesn’t, I guess it’s okay. I guess it was meant to be that this, it wasn’t in the cards, whatever, whatever it is the, you know, the phrase that we want to insert there. And the reality is, it’s not until you go, but even when, even if it doesn’t happen tomorrow, or if it doesn’t, you know, the failure will that will happen along this path I’m going to consider, I’m going to persist until I get to that place, you know.
Lesley Logan 34:31
Yeah, well, I here’s the thing. I think a lot of people weren’t given the opportunity to fail. That’s not the world that most of us went to school under. You had to pass, and if you didn’t pass, you were, like, it was not okay. So like, I think if you are having a hard time being having an unreasonable goal or failing, then you must go to beitpod.com/success because you are going to hear that even Brad hasn’t hit a single goal in six months or six years, I think, six years, six years, he hasn’t had a single goal, maybe it’s eight now at this point, since we met like and it’s not because he hasn’t tried hard or had great success. It’s because he sets unreasonable goals for himself to make himself work harder than last time, and then they like reflect upon what they like, why they maybe didn’t hit those goals, but like what they did do. And it’s just really, really cool. So beitpod.com/success. Go take it. Go relisten to the episode. Get fired up. Let us know if you sign up for this program.
Brad Crowell 35:27
Yeah. We want to know. We want to know.
Lesley Logan 35:28
We’ll probably even see you there.
Brad Crowell 35:29
Yeah, I think we’re gonna do it, too.
Lesley Logan 35:30
Yeah. I love the classes. So at any rate, you’re amazing. Brad’s amazing. Share this with a friend who needs to hear it. Share it with three friends. Guess what, when your friends change, it makes it easier for you to change. And until next time, Be It Till You See It.
Brad Crowell 35:44
Bye for now.
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Lesley Logan
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Lesley Logan
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Brad Crowell
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Brad Crowell
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