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Lesley Logan brings you another round of Friday wins to inspire your week. She shares a powerful story of fathers reuniting with daughters, a community win about commitment and accountability, and her own personal milestone with Brad. This episode is all about connection, celebration, and remembering there’s room for you at the table.

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In this episode you will learn about:

• The power of a prison daddy-daughter dance that reunited families.
• How Melissa and Lisa reignited their Pilates practice through weekly partner sessions.
• Why honoring small commitments with an accountability buddy matters.
• What 10 years of marriage taught Lesley about celebrating past choices.

Episode References/Links:

• Submit your wins or questions – https://beitpod.com/questions
• God Behind Bars – https://godbehindbars.com
• God Behind Bars Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/godbehindbars

Transcript

Lesley Logan: It’s Fuck Yeah Friday.

Brad Crowell: Fuck yeah.

Lesley Logan: Get ready for some wins.

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Lesley Logan
Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I’m Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I’ve trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it’s the antidote to fear. Each week, my guests will bring Bold, Executable, Intrinsic and Targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It’s a practice, not a perfect. Let’s get started.

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Lesley Logan 0:48
Hi, Be It babe. Happy Friday. We made it. We did it. We’re here. I am so excited for these short episodes, because they’re just, they’re here to inspire you. And honestly, like, sometimes, like, we were kids, like, didn’t we, like, live for Fridays. And now it’s kind of like, okay, we made it. We survived. There’s a lot going on. There’s a lot always going on. There’s always been that way. But these episodes are here to remind you that there’s still things that you can celebrate. There’s still good stuff that’s happening. You’re still doing things, even if around you, if it just feels like chaos and overwhelm. So I share a winof yours, a win of mine, also some inspiration from something that I saw, that we can all think about, celebrate or get mad about, and then a little mantra for you to take with you on your way. And hopefully it’s something you can share with a friend or run a Post-It, and I love for you to your share your wins, to send them into the beitpod.com/questions. But this really inspired me. So this is really, really cool. 16 incarcerated fathers were reunited with their daughters for a daddy-daughter dance held inside the prison. Freaking the coolest thing the prison system, like bothers me so much because we don’t do a really good job like rehabilitating people, making people feel like human beings. We treat them like animals, and we want them to act like a human and like Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is like a real thing. So this is so cool, and it’s so it says, for a few sacred hours, San Quentin didn’t feel like prison. The prison chapel transformed into a holy ground, draped walls, soft music, a red carpet, floral centerpieces replaced concrete and coldness. For a moment, it was hard to believe we were still in a maximum security prison. Outside, 16 incarcerated fathers stood waiting, some in suits for the first time, others trembling as they tied ties with unsteady hands. They waited for years, for this moment, some decades, then the doors open. There’s actually like a whole documentary on YouTube. Now I gotta go watch it. But the daughter stepped on the red carpet, little girls in bright dresses, grown women with hearts full of ache and hope. One by one, they walked into arms that had long to hold them. I’m gonna cry. Fathers fell at their knees in tears. Prodigals reunited. Kelon hadn’t held his daughter in 20 years. Carrington wept as his daughters hugged him for the first time. Steven danced with his “bundle of joy.” Vincent read a handwritten letter to his daughter Autumn, filled with love, apology, and redemption.
It wasn’t just beautiful.
It was sacred.
It was the Gospel, tangible, trembling, alive. You made it happen. You gave 21 daughters dresses, flights, hotel rooms, corsages, a meal, and a memory they’ll never forget. You brought heaven to prison. You reminded these men: they are still dads. And reminded these girls: they are still daughters.
This wasn’t just an event.
This was healing.
This was hope.
This was holy. Anyways, there’s a the handle that handled that did this is God Behind Bars are doing another father-daughter dance in Angola prison. This year, you can donate $10 a month or anything to help for pay for tuxes, family travel, dresses, food and so much more. You can go to Godbehindbars.com. Like, however you feel about religion. Like, I just think that this is just like the most impactful thing for people in their lives. Like, people make mistakes, people are put in situations that things happen, and our justice system is really not always just. And so I just am this just really melts my heart. And like, how cool, how cool. And I’m from California, up past where San Quentin is. We drive by it, and it’s like, just not a place you want to be. And like, the fact that they took the time to do this, to make people feel like the human beings that they are, and really help establish relationships that like can be helpful for for reestablishing these people in society, if they ever get to like, it’s humongous. It’s a huge deal. So anyways, that is what inspired me. There can be inspiration, right?

Lesley Logan 4:16
Okay, a win of yours. Melissa Hargrove, someone I was been around in our lives for a long time and just really inspires me all the time. She said, wanted to share an ongoing win. After our eLevate retreat in March, I reconnected with my OG partner, Lisa. We decided to make a commitment to get together and practice our original goal was to find as much time as we could and do duets with Lesley. After the first lesson, we knew we needed more. We have more duets scheduled through September. Go us! And taking it a step further, we decided to try to do our best to meet weekly, even just to do a Joe’s gym or just move. Today, we opted to do the June chair class, It Takes Two, and I’m pretty sure I can speak for us both that we dusted that piece of equipment and we have a new reignited passion for it. So thank you, Lisa for finding time to work with me. And just proud that we have been able to keep the commitment to our practice. I told her today that had we not done the class together it would have taken me two hours to do it, because I would have had to pause, pet my cat, get a drink, maybe change the laundry and so on. But holy cow, when you flow at a brisk pace without pausing, it feels amazing. So thanks again, Lisa for keeping us on point and LL for an inspiring class. Yeah, I want to add to this win. Because you know what, Melissa Hargrove, your partner, Lisa, put a win up that adds to this. So here we go and adding on to that win. This is Melissa. Melissa. I wanted to add to this win this week after already doing two Pilates classes Tuesday, Melissa joined me for our scheduled practice session. I am so very grateful for her commitment to our practice together. It means so much that she did not cancel. As I was looking forward to moving with her, we agreed to do a 30 minute session, which was a win win for both of us since I had the opportunity to walk and do a stair climbing session in 95 degree heat at lunch. Glad we could support each other and can find the time and the win in any situation. Way to go ladies. So this is why Be It Till You See It exists. This is what we’re here to do, bring people together, bring women together. Remind you that like you can, right? You can have counterparts that like will show up even when you’re like, I don’t really want to do this, and this happens all the time. I’m sure I’ll have a win coming up with some of our other OPC members who literally get together every Wednesday at 8am to do the workout that they’re members of. You know, sometimes it does take that kind of village, and it’s okay to take that village time. It’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to have an accountability buddy, but this is really important to me. When you make an accountability buddy, you guys need to be completely honest and thoughtful of the other person, so that you don’t start canceling here and canceling there, like, oh, it’s just 30 minutes. No, show up for each other, right? It helps the other person make time for themselves as well. So I really love this lady. Thank you so much for inspiring us to move our bodies, but also to connect with other people in our lives and realize, like we need each other too. We need to be there too.

Lesley Logan 4:39
Okay, so my win, I had a win to share with you. I’m gonna save that win for next week. It’s already a little delayed to share with you, so I’m gonna share it because a win is actually, I wish I had Brad here. Tomorrow’s our 10 year wedding anniversary. 10 years, holy moly. We’re celebrating together. I think we’ll actually be together for it, because we’re in Chicago, so we’ll celebrate it together, and we’re like, usually we’re on a plane and like, because of the time travel distance, like the third just disappears in our lives. And so multiple anniversaries that we haven’t been together, but this one, we get to do it together, doing something we love, with people we love to be around at, Pilates On Tour in Chicago. I know you’re like, 10 years how is that like? That’s that’s a win. It’s a win not because, like, it’s like a struggle to stay married to him or anything like that, but just that we like continually make time to be with each other and to make sure that we’re doing things together that are fun, and we challenge each other in really amazing ways. He challenges me to put things away in an actual spot. I challenged him to be on time. You know, these are, these are these are wins for two ADHD people in the same household. But truly, I’m so blessed. I’m so grateful. And recently, we were sharing how we met, because people always want to know how we met, and maybe that’s a podcast episode for a different day, but whenever we get to tell it now that we’ve been married 10 years, there’s there’s something really cool about, like, looking back on the people that we were who chose each other and we chose to do something really scary, and that’s a win. So here we are celebrating 10 years of marriage. And it’s not that the 10 years of marriage is what I’m celebrating for us. I’m, like, kind of celebrating our past selves, making really huge decisions that could have easily been written off and, like, not made a priority. So huge thanks to Brad and Lesley in their early 30s for the things that they did, but also just for all the people in our lives who have been friends along the way, who’ve become family, and that’s our win. 10 years of marriage. I love it. I love you. You’re amazing.

Lesley Logan 8:58
Okay, let me get you an affirmation to repeat with your on yourself, on your drive, on your walk. There’s room for me at the table. There is room for me at the table. There is. Take a seat. You know, sometimes we think, oh, I don’t want to bother people, oh, and I’ll be I don’t have enough accolades. Oh, who am I to do this? My neighbor recently, saw the G7 he’s like, oh my god, don’t, don’t write my thing down. Like, who am I to be here? And like, what he actually is there to do, like, change the lives of people in this world and the politicians that are there need to hear what he has to say. There’s room for you at the table. There’s room for me at the table. Love you so much, and you know what to do. Until next time, Be It Till You See It.—-

Lesley Logan
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Lesley Logan
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Brad Crowell
It’s written, filmed and recorded by your host, Lesley Logan and me, Brad Crowell.

Lesley Logan
It is transcribed, produced and edited by the epic team at Disenyo.co.

Brad Crowell
Our theme music is by Ali at Apex Production Music and our branding by designer and artist Gianfranco Cioffi.

Lesley Logan
Special thanks to Melissa Solomon for creating our visuals.

Brad Crowell
Also to Angelina Herico for adding all of our content to our website. And finally to Meridith Root for keeping us all on point and on time.