How Small Gestures Create Strong Bonds
Ep. 291 FYF with Lesley
“When we reach out to others and build community it helps people feel like they belong.”
Discover the incredible power of small gestures in making others feel seen and supported. And how it comes full circle with Lesley’s heartfelt wins—making others feel appreciated in today’s FYF episode.
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In this episode you will learn about:
- Why the significance of speaking up goes beyond the end result.
- Learning and growing by facing challenges before feeling ready.
- The importance of making an intentional effort to nurture friendships.
- Why Speaking Up Can Change Your Experience FYF Ep 258 – https://beitpod.com/bitysiep258
- Mentions eLevate member, Liza Osoteo
- Mentions eLevate member, Alexis George
- Agency Mini – https://profitablepilates.com/courses/agency-mini-7-course-bundle/
Lesley Logan: It’s Fuck Yeah Friday.
Brad Crowell: Fuck yeah.
Lesley Logan: Get ready for some wins.
Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I’m Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I’ve trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it’s the antidote to fear. Each week, my guests will bring Bold, Executable, Intrinsic and Targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It’s a practice, not a perfect. Let’s get started.
Hello, Be It babes, welcome to winning Fridays. I mean, Fuck Yeah Fridays. I mean, even if you listen to this on a Saturday, it’s a Fuck Yeah Saturday, it is all about just being like, fuck how I did that? And hearing what other people have done and call it a win so you can see yourself in that. So important. Sometimes we put other people on pedestals. And we think all of the things that they’re doing are bigger deals, and that’s why they’re celebrating but I want you to hear like a lot of things that people are doing are the same things that you’re doing and you have wins all the time. And it’s important to, it’s important to celebrate them it just really is you got to take stock of what you are doing because otherwise you’re just gonna think about all the things you’re not doing and like especially at this end of the year, especially this time of the year holy frickin moly with the holidays coming up if you’re in the States for Thanksgiving and then there’s also just the rest of the holidays everyone has to do with like it’s so easy to focus which didn’t get done in 2023 and my freakin goodness let’s talk about what we did do. So got a couple of wins of yours. I want your wins so send them in you can send them out with your questions you want Brad and I to answer, send it to the Be It pod. Here is Liza Osoteo
So, Liza Osoteo, she is eLevate member and I just I love I love her win so much we’ve had her on before and with the wins and they just make me smile. So I hope this makes you smile. She wrote, “I’m overdue for posting my wins. I love the practice of celebrating my small wins and I’m piggybacking off of LL’s win for asking for what you want. Asking for a particular table in the chandelier bar.” If you remember an FYF from a while back, like I asked for it and I got what I wanted. So here we go. She said, “My win was a one-off and I’m learning it’s not so much in the getting but it’s in the asking. I was on my way to Hawaii with a friend, with my friend and Pilates teacher Mandy, and I told her I’m going to ask if there’s room for us in first class. It was a long shot because the plane was full. So I asked a flight attendant, I’m practicing for asking what I want. So I’m just curious, what are the odds of getting seats in first class? Cheesy grin. What I appreciate was her response. She said, ‘Yeah, because what’s the harm in asking?’ Exactly. Well, we sat in a coach but I felt triumphant anyways, just asking. Extra bonus Mandy taught me how to play solitaire Mahjong, I think that’s just an entertainment flight thing. And that’s something we play IRL.” Just so for all the elder Millennials out there, I’ve always played the Internet Solitaire Mahjong I don’t I can’t imagine people are setting those tiles up but maybe they are in real life and I want to go I really enjoy it might be more fun in person.
Liza, you I love this one I had to share it out because you’re right the win is in the asking not in the result and I think like we always say like oh enjoy the journey it’s not about the you know the destination. Well, then it has to apply to everything so it can’t just be that was a win because you got first class it has to be a win because you like spoke up and ask for what you wanted or was hoping to get. So way to go.
Second win from you guys is Alexis George. We’ve had her wins on before. She is an eLevate member as well with Liza and I love this win. She wrote, “My win is partly from last week. Y’all I did Agency Mini. It was an amazing experience. LL and Brad helped me figure find my long lost skill of writing totally forgot that had been beaten into me throughout college and careers. Thank you both. Also as an added bonus we got to experience breathwork with LL, It was so spiritual, love that really need to see LL on a different light. Lastly, today felt heavy. I wanted to go back into bed for the day and I did some weights, out of the breath work to my meditation chakra clearing. I received a helpful message and I feel like myself again. When life feels heavy, breathwork.” Alexis, I love this because you put yourself in a room that seems scary that you were thinking you do next time because that’s when you be more ready but you put yourself into the room before you felt ready which is the best time to go. And you gave yourself permission to to learn something and that means you found that you are really good at writing and writing is so great in this business. So I’m so excited for the amazing clients who are going to hear about you because of your amazing writing. And I love that you actually felt heavy, and then you did something to fill your cup first. And I think that that’s really great. And so I love that you celebrate this because now, every time you feel heavy, there’s actually a dopamine kick that you’re like, oh, I’m happy, I feel happy I do this and I, and then I do some breath work. And then I feel like myself again, like the world feels light. So I just really, really love that. Because so often when like, life feels hard, we just, like lean into that and life is hard, we’d be (inaudible) so way to go.
Okay. My win. So, I was in Cambodia for three weeks. And I actually like, I think I texted like a couple of friends, mostly friends that texted me. But mostly like, hey, I’ll check in with you when I get back. And it was really great. I missed my friends terribly, but it was like really nice just to have like, no obligations, not that friends are obligations, but no calls of any kind, right? But my win is when I came back, I was like, I just really miss my time with my girlfriends, like I have some really awesome, amazing women in my life. And they say you’re like the average of the five people you hang out with the most. So the thing is that none of my best friends live in town, all my best friends live not in town. And so I don’t get to spend a lot of time with them. But I want to spend more time with them because I want them to be the average that we’re spending time with. So I made a point that every week I was going to text, each one of my besties one a day and just not just like just check in on them ask a question, say something, right? And I’ve been doing that for several weeks now. And since I got back and it’s really a lot of fun because it’s not every week that you have time to like have hour-long calls with your friends, right? But just A. one, letting them know I’m thinking about them and B. being able to have that ongoing conversation that doesn’t have, it’s not an obligation. It’s fun. We get to like actually see each other like you could feel seen by someone feeling seen by them me feeling helping them feel seen. So, so important.
And I have been, I used to like think oh, I don’t wanna do it in my morning walk because I’m doing my morning walk. But the reality is like the best time for me to send them a text is on my morning walk because all of them live in a later timezone. And then I don’t have to respond back to them right away. I can respond to them later in the day, right? Because that’s what texts are for. And so the win is like in A. doing the thing and making sure women in my life feel amazing and feel seen, B. what happens when you actually give out that you get that in return. So that has been like filling my cup in a big way, and C. the timing of things is gonna be perfect. People can put their phones on DND, y’all. So you don’t have to worry like, oh, I don’t wanna wake them up. Just send the thing. Send the thing that I’m thinking of you. That’s a win in your life. When you do that, when we reach out to others, it builds a community. It helps people feel like they belong. Way to go. I’m so happy, proud of myself. Win, win win.
Okay. Your affirmation to repeat today is I am safe and surrounded by love and support. I am safe and surrounded by love and support. Yeah, you are safe and surrounded by love and support. So anytime you’re feeling a little bit lonely, you’re safe and you’re surrounded by love and support. So just reach out. Right? When you need something give it out to others and it comes back to you. When you love, give some love. Need some support? Ask them how you can support them. And it comes back. Reciprocity is real.
All right, loves, these are your FYFs for today. I know the next time you hear from me is going to be a crazy holiday Black Friday, kind of sales thing. Please, please, please make sure you open up this podcast so that we can pour into you with all that chaos that’s going on. Have a little pause for yourself. Remember, it’s not all about the chaos. There’s like good things out there. And until next time, Be It Till You See It.
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