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Ep. 292 Candy Motzek
“We don’t have to go and talk about our business and our passion projects when we’re out socializing.”
Candy is a best-selling author podcast host of the show She Coaches Coaches, and life & business coach for coaches. Candy helps smart people start successful coaching businesses. She believes that coaching transforms lives and that being a coach is a calling. She helps coaches get unstuck & feel more confident so they can play bigger, sign clients & create more meaningful success. She is a ‘recovering’ corporate executive & engineer who combines practical strategy & mindset in her calming unique approach.
Gone are the days of the 9-to-5 grind. Join Lesley as she sits down with Candy to delve into a modern coach’s experience, highlighting the balance between work and freedom. Discover the mindset shifts, tools, and strategies that paved Candy’s way for a holistic business transformation.
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In this episode you will learn about:
- Candy’s transition from a corporate world to a coaching career.
- Understand the core objectives of coaching.
- Delve into entrepreneurial mindsets that drive business success.
- The typical oversights that can hinder one’s professional growth.
- Learn the art of accepting and using your inner critic for personal growth.
- Explore ways to introduce adaptability in your business ventures.
- Grasp the transformative power of embodying your aspirations in the present.
- Candy Motzek’s Website – https://stepintosuccessnow.com/
- Candy Motzek’s Podcast – https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/she-coaches-coaches/id1527473940
- Candy Motzek’s Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/candymotzek/
Candy Motzek: The first mistake is a misunderstanding about what fear is. And we think that we’re going to get rid of fear before we do the thing. And so once we understand that fear is part of the ride and fear is I won’t say fear is your friend because that’s like, doesn’t ring true to me. But it’s always gonna be in the back seat of your car.
Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I’m Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I’ve trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it’s the antidote to fear. Each week, my guests will bring Bold, Executable, Intrinsic and Targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It’s a practice, not a perfect. Let’s get started.
Lesley Logan 1:07
All right, Be It babe. I’m so excited. This is a really fun conversation. And I guess Candy Motzek is a coach of coaches. And if you’re like, I’m not a coach, I bet whatever you’re doing probably will align just fine. Because I know I felt like she was speaking totally to me and to the people that I work with. And so what I love so much happens around halfway point. Because like she’ll have two things around the halfway point because she talks about these five things that we all need to know. And then we actually get to the Be It Action Item. And I just think that like, it’s such a great way to understand why this podcast even exists, and it’s how to help you. And so my loves. Here’s Candy Motzek. Let us know how this helps your life by tagging the Be It pod and letting Candy know and we’ll see another side.
Lesley Logan 1:59
All right, Be It babes. I’m so excited. I have an incredible woman we’ve already been chatting behind the scenes and I should have hit record because it would have been it’d been fun for the outtakes. But Candy Motzek is our guest today she is a podcaster as well. And also when I was listening to what she’s doing, she’s a badass person who’s just like helping women show up more. So I’m I think this is a great conversation. Candy, will you tell everyone who you are, and what you’re rockin’ at these days?
Candy Motzek 2:20
Oh, Lesley, thank you so much for inviting me to be on the show. I’m super excited about this. So my name is Candy Motzek. I’m the host of the podcast, She Coaches Coaches. And that is kind of it. Like, in a nutshell. That’s what I do. I am the coach for coaches, and I help new coaches get started, struggling coaches get out of their own way, and make money and have clients and do what they love and live like that life. Right? So.
Lesley Logan 2:50
Oh, I love that. Okay, so first of all, I love that because like in my world, I have a Pilates teacher who teaches Pilates teachers and like that’s a lot of I teach a lot of people who are not Pilates teachers as well, but it’s a lot of what I do. And I think coaches need coaches like whatever that coach is. How did you kind of like get started doing that? Because obviously, (inaudible) a coach, first, I would assume, but like what was the journey getting there?
Candy Motzek 3:12
Yeah, so and I love that you’re a Pilates teacher that teaches Pilates teachers. It’s like that sort of meta. So the way that I look at it is this as therapists, a good therapist always has therapists, a doctor needs doctors. And so of course coaches need coaches. Right. So how did I get started is I spent a lot of time in corporate land. And it was wonderful until it really was not wonderful. And I had always wanted to be something like a coach. Coaches didn’t exist when I was making my first university choices. But that’s not the path I took. I took the path that said being an engineer. So we don’t know how those two things go together. But
Lesley Logan 4:00
I’m like, I’m in. I can. I’m sure there’s a those two for the Venn diagram where they go together.
Candy Motzek 4:07
And so I started down the path, I did all the corporate thing. What happened was I was that person that everybody would walk into my office, whether I reported to them, or they reported to me or they didn’t even work in my area. And they would close the door and they would sit down and they say I got something going on. Can we talk? So after a while, I thought it would be good to get some training. And then I started coaching. And then the people who started showing up were coaches and saying, Hey, I’m struggling. Can you help me? So here we go.
Lesley Logan 4:43
You know, I love this because I talk about this all on the show. A lot of times people don’t really know what their thing is like I don’t know what my purpose is like they make this purpose like this amorphous like big thing we’ve got to figure out and oftentimes people are telling you what that is, because they’re showing up at your office and like, can you help me like it’s the thing that you’re being asked all the time is what people think you’re this natural expert in. And we take it for granted because it came easy for you to kind of solve a problem or to take a bigger take a different look at something.
Candy Motzek 5:11
Oh, for sure. Yeah. And I think, you know, this idea, I spent a lot of time with that big question like, “What is my purpose?” You know, sort of expecting to get the Thunderbolts from heaven. And what I found out was that your purpose wants you. And so those are the people that show up just like you said, like, we spend our time almost with our hands in front of our eyes going, I don’t know what it is. But our purpose wants us as much as we want it. And so all you have to do is just be bold enough to take those hands from your eyes, and then just relax, and you’ll be surprised. It’s like, it’s right there.
Lesley Logan 5:53
I love that. Oh, my gosh, I can picture that with all the people that we work with are like, I don’t know who I’m supposed to help. And I’m like, like, the person who you want first is probably a great start. Also, like, you know, like, I It’s true, people are waiting for the thunderbolt like, it’s gonna come from the heavens, it’s gonna, like, the seats are gonna part and like, here it is, because the movies have all done that, but it doesn’t have it kind of is almost like, I don’t know, for me, it was like this. somebody was like, You should teach Pilates. I was like, I could do that. Like, thankfully, someone said it like as I was really waiting for a big sign. But it’s like, it’s almost like, I don’t want to say the frog in the boiling water, but it slowly warms up. And it’s like, oh, what’s this thing that I’ve been doing that kept so easy for me and that I’m naturally good at and I actually really like doing, it is the thing I’m supposed to be doing. So I also want to highlight you said like, coaches should have coaches, I had a coach who’s like, you need to be a product of your product. So like, as a Pilates teacher, I need to be doing Pilates. Even if it looks different on my body. Like when I had a broken leg, it looked different than that, like, whatever that version of it is needs. I need to be doing it. Otherwise, it’s not going to feel congruent to be selling it to people.
Candy Motzek 7:04
Yeah, and that’s I don’t know about you. But you know, the people that work with me, that’s like mistake number one. Yeah, of course, you’re having problems signing clients, you don’t believe in it enough for yourself. So why would anybody feel like they can feel that integrity, right? They can feel that this is, this is what I do. This is part of my growth path. And I do it even if I’m, if I’m not happy with that right now, but it’s still part of my practice.
Lesley Logan 7:31
So, um, you obviously left the corporate world and started doing all this. What was what was that journey? Like? Because I know, for me leaving a salaried income to like, go do it myself was hard. Like I was single living in LA like, you guys, you can’t the $60,000 is poverty in LA. So that is you have at least one roommate and you drive 45 minutes without traffic to get anywhere. So it’s an hour and a half with it. So like, what was that journey like to kind of take that big leap? Was it scary? How did you adjust to that?
Candy Motzek 8:08
Yeah, so I’m sitting here listening to your question. And I’m thinking, Oh, I’m gonna tell her about my plan and how I saved money, which is true. I did, you know, I saved, I decided, I’m married, and I had kids, they’re grown now. But we just I decided that I would see what would happen if I could live on half my salary. And I use that difference. And the clients that I brought in to create that nest egg. So that’s the lovely sort of the surface-level answer. And the below-the-level answer is that it was terrifying. Absolutely terrifying. Because we have been fed this story, that our identity is our title, our job, you know, so when you’ve got the fancy title that’s kind of becomes part of how you identify yourself and how you identify that you’re successful. And then we were also fed this line that our job is security. And, you know, it couldn’t be further from the truth, right? Like, there’s nothing more secure than being employed like self-employed, right? It’s like, this is up to me. I gotta make this happen. Right? And that’s where the real security is.
Lesley Logan 9:17
I, okay, rewind everyone, listen to this, because this is actually something that frustrates me so much, my husband and I work for our own company, and trying to buy a house, you would think the bank, you would think we were like, the bank is like, get away, just run away. Thank God for the government who’s like, here’s this thing, but you should make you here’s all the hoops you gotta jump through to get it. But we’ll, we’ll let you. We’ll let you try. Right. And they’re like, but if we were W-2 from an actual company that we didn’t run, they would go oh, that’s so secure. Never mind the people who get laid off all the time to get rid of all that without even warning without even reason. And oftentimes, right before you invest everyone right before you feel like waiting until you’re like vested or whatever that thing is, I promise you’re getting fired right now.
Lesley Logan 9:21
Exactly, even as a top performer, even as a high potential, you know, they’re like, no, no, the company is going in a different direction. And I’m sorry, your widget number 234. And widget numbers 231 to 235 are going and you happen to be in that range. Right? So, yeah,
Lesley Logan 10:08
And it’s like, but what I know is like when when the shit hit the fan and it was like Covid, guess what? I could rely on me. Like, I was like, what? Okay, what are the things that I could do? You know, it wasn’t that it wasn’t scary. It wasn’t like scared to death, but I knew I’ve never failed myself.
Candy Motzek 10:32
Yeah, yeah. Right. Like that is a tweetable.
Lesley Logan 10:38
Yeah, oh, my gosh. Okay, well, thank you for sharing the pretty version. And also like the the real version inside because I do think like, your pretty version is also like a really great thing. If you can live on half your income, you can save up pretty fast, y’all. And it’s, it can be scary. If even like, if you’re like barely making it paycheck to paycheck, there are things you can do. And also, if it’s really, if your job is really terrifyingly bad for your mental health, it, you have this, the sooner you make the leap, the better, because it’s not going to actually, you’ll actually live off less money faster, when you’re happy. That’s what I found.
Candy Motzek 11:15
Yeah, totally. And just because you’re gonna leave that job doesn’t mean that you couldn’t get another job. You know, like, I don’t know if it’s spoken about a lot. But what happens if you’re at a really high functioning job, and you’ve got this dream of this business that you want to create, you don’t need to stay there, especially if it’s bad for your mental health. And I am like one of the poster child for that. However, why not go and get one of those, like, down-to-level jobs that you can do in your sleep, you can make the paycheck, you’ve got the savings, you got the benefits, and using that as your fund. And that, okay, you know, at least I got some money coming in this week, to go out and build a business you want. So consider that. Like, it’s not an all or nothing thing. Right?
Lesley Logan 12:01
Yeah, I thank you for bringing that we had a we had a business retreat here at our house last fall. And one of the girls is like wanting to leave her job. And she’s like, Okay, I have to say about this my so I could just start my own thing. And I was like, she mentioned they pay Starbucks employees now. Like, what is the actual difference? If you were to work at Starbucks, you’d work this many hours to get health insurance. I bet you you could probably get a job at a Starbucks as a barista that many hours, and you don’t like when you leave Starbucks. They don’t call you know, unless someone’s sick, like, you don’t have like an email to check. There’s nothing there. So you’ve all these hours. And I think sometimes, maybe it’s pride or ego or whatever. But like, you know, I think we forget that there are other options where there’s jobs where they just that it needs to be done, and they hate the person who makes my coffee, you bring lots of joy to my day. So don’t ever count that. But it could actually allow you to not be in a stressful job, and then do the thing that you want to do. That’s a great point you made.
Candy Motzek 12:57
Yeah, yeah, for sure.
Lesley Logan 12:59
So, Candy, I’m so sorry. Go ahead.
Candy Motzek 13:01
No, go ahead. I just I just made me start thinking about something. But then my brain started running away so.
Lesley Logan 13:05
I had that. So I guess like, so you’ve been doing this for a long time. What do you see is like the biggest mistake I know, like you coach coaches, but people who listen to us, whether your a Pilates teacher or anything like that, like coaches is the same word because we all kind of, you know, make the similarities. What do you think the biggest mistakes you see people make in that role are doing?
Candy Motzek 13:26
Yeah. So there’s, there’s five, that I see. The first mistake is a misunderstanding about what fear is. And we think that we’re going to get rid of fear before we do the thing. And so once we understand that fear is part of the ride, and fear is, I won’t say fear is your friend, because that’s like, doesn’t ring true to me. But it’s always going to be in the backseat of your car. Once you know that it’s always going to be there. And it’s never going to go away. And it’s not going to go away before you do the thing. It helps you to kind of settle down and do the thing. So that’s the first thing. The second is distraction, doing everything that’s busy instead of the thing that’s going to make you money or sign you clients, signing up for the next program, finding another mentor that seems like they have a really good sales pitch, but maybe doesn’t really fit into your style or your business plan. People are worried about tech, they get all up to twiddle about tech and tech is really, you can hire somebody to do the tech really, really see. So and then the fourth thing is doing it on your own. You know, so I’m sure that the people that come and learn with you. Some of them probably struggled, they’re the lone wolf you know, I’m really independent. I can figure it out. But doing it and as part of a community, part of a peer group. There’s a lot to help people along. And then finally, the worst of it is people who want to be Pilates instructors or coaches or yoga instructors, those who don’t do what they say, they’re gonna do. Like they’re not working with a coach. They’re not doing Pilates. They’re not you know, they’re not practicing practicing their skill, their mastery their zone.
Lesley Logan 15:14
Yeah. All of those I agree with. And I think that that rings true for people across all all work lives because it is true like one trying to do it on your own, like, what’s the whole thing like if you want to go fast, go alone. But if you want to go far go with people like you, you’ll go fast somewhere. Maybe the wrong direction. Then you’re by yourself, and you’re further from or you don’t know what to do. So like, it’s really true. I don’t know where it’s been ingrained that like, you got to do it yourself. Otherwise, it’s not worthy. wasn’t good enough. But like, you know, every person who accepts an award always thanks, people. I’ve never heard someone accept an award and go, I did it all myself.
Candy Motzek 15:56
I think there was one acceptance speech like that one time, it was a joke, but it was like that. And that was what they said is like, thank you. I did it all myself. And everybody, of course, laughed, because they knew that they were part of a massive community that was so supportive, right? Yeah. But that’s the that’s the thing. And why would you believe that, right?
Lesley Logan 16:14
I know, I don’t know why we believe that. Because it’s not like there’s there’s no no evidence for that. And then, and then like, the tech thing, oh, my gosh, tech stuff, it really is. And here’s the thing, this is the best time to do anything for yourself, that could make money because now there are little like plug and play like and if you don’t know what those words mean, it means you like login. And it’s like, pick these colors, and it will just do it for you. And it’s like, you pick your font. And it’s like, Here you go. And all you have to do is make a decision. And then a website is built, it’s online. It’s are you like, you have to get like a bank account. Like that’s the hardest thing you’ll have to do on your own. And then there’s all this tech stuff. So I think we get this so-called fear. If you, and you know this, you’re a coach, the story, you tell yourself, if I’m not good at tech, you will never get good at tech.
Lesley Logan 16:15
You don’t need to, and you don’t need to be good at tech. No, you know, nobody says you have to right? There are so many people that are fabulous with tech. Let’s let them use their superpower.
Lesley Logan 17:09
Yes, yes. And that’s a big thing for us. Like, I have people who like you get so much done. I’m like, Do you think I’m doing it by myself? There are a bunch of people who are super good at it. And I’m like this, I’m like, they’re like, What do you want? I’m like, What do you think we should do? If this is my goal, what do we need to do? And then can you can you do that? That’s great. Thank you still let me know when it’s done.
Candy Motzek 17:33
It looks beautiful.
Lesley Logan 17:34
Yeah. I have no notes. So I think those are those are really applicable things for anything people are doing it. I mean, everyone who’s listening, this knows the intro to the show, like, you know, the only antidote to fear is action. And the only way you get clarity is taking action. Like you’re like you said it like it’s like in that back seat. It’s like never going away. It’s that it’s that thing, it’s a bumper sticker on your car. And it’s almost like, I liked that you said it’s not a friend because I hate that quote, because it’s that’s just like a cognitive dissonance. But, but knowing that it’s always there. It’s almost like not comforting, but I can relax with that and go okay, I don’t have to get rid of it. I just have to learn how to like, bring it along.
Candy Motzek 18:15
Yeah, yeah. And I think there’s a place there too, for a little bit of compassion, right? Like that voice that, you know, the inner critic voice. We fight against it, you know, and the inner critic voice is often the voice that speaks in fear to us. But then we fight so hard against that voice. And that’s kind of its goal, right? Like it wants us to focus on that fight instead of doing the thing because then we’re distracted. But if we can use a little bit of compassion and remember that that fear that inner critic voice is there to keep us safe. You know, like it really wants us to be safe and secure and loved and part of the you know, part of the crew then we don’t fight against us so hard because it’s actually trying to help us it’s just misguided.
Lesley Logan 19:10
Yeah, yeah, it’s almost like the more you ignore the Martin in yellow suit.
Candy Motzek 19:14
Oh yeah. Mine is really loud in case you’re wondering.
Lesley Logan 19:17
Oh, gosh, same um, I I’ve always thought about naming it but then I was afraid if I picked a name and then I met someone I would probably like with the same name you know, but like so I’ve just never. Candy, I want to go back to that journey because like, you shared it so well like you like were scared inside but also you did these things. What was it like with family friends as you changed your career instead of working for yourself? I think a lot a lot of people are like, oh gosh, my family doesn’t get what I do. I’m working for myself and they have this you know, our families like to project a lot of of their own fears onto us. If our if our if our existing fear is not enough, we get there as to how did you kind of like how did you bring them along and get them used to it and how did that journey go for you. Did it take a long time?
Candy Motzek 20:03
Yeah, so that’s, that’s kind of a funny answer. So my family generally is quite supportive. They were nervous for me. And so, you know, yes, there was that part of it. But even now, I don’t think they really know what I do. You know? So they’ll say things like, so how’s business? And they’ll say, Oh, it’s good. And they’ll say, so what exactly do you do? Well, I get on Zoom, the vast majority of my practice is one on one coaching, you know, so I’m on Zoom, and I talk to people for an hour at a time. And we talk about stuff, and we laugh, and they cry, and then we laugh some more. And then they go away, and they just create these amazing things. And they’re like, what’s a podcast? It’s like, they can’t comprehend it. So they do their best to be supportive, but they just kind of they still don’t really get it. And I think that that’s part of the why not be the lone wolf DIY, because your family, they’re going to do the best they can for you. But they don’t really get what that kind of a business this, like, they can’t even comprehend it. So go hang out with your people, you know?
Lesley Logan 21:16
Yeah, I think like, trying to force your family to get something that you’re so passionate about, unless they have unless there’s like, I had this one coach who was like, when you ever pitch in an idea, try to say like, it’s like the American Idol version, but with food or something like that, because it’s like, the only way people are gonna get things that is like, so weird. But it’s also like, maybe just let your family, be your family.
Candy Motzek 21:40
Yeah, I love that.
Lesley Logan 21:41
And then people like you, and other people who actually have either gone where you want to be, or are trying to get there around so that you can feel seen and also get the support you want. And then when you go hang out the barbecue it can just be a barbecue.
Candy Motzek 21:58
Right? Yeah. Yeah. I mean, is that, isn’t that sort of a weird concept like that we don’t have to go and talk about our business and our passion projects when we’re out socializing at, you know, the aunt’s birthday, like, why should we?
Lesley Logan 22:14
I know. And like, I love my family. And they, and they, because of social media, they can also see what I do. But also it still doesn’t make sense to them how it makes money. And I’m like, It’s okay. You don’t have Don’t worry, the bills are being paid. How about that? Like, don’t worry, the student loans are paid off, you’re off the hook anyways, you have nothing to worry about. So you know, but I do think that those fears of rejection, so thank you for sharing that. Like, they don’t get it. And so you’re, if you’re listening, your family probably won’t get it. And that’s okay.
Lesley Logan 22:42
It’s totally okay.
Lesley Logan 22:45
Yeah. You’ve been doing this for quite some time. What are you most excited about right now?
Candy Motzek 22:51
Hmm. So what I’m most excited about right now is that I actually went to Mexico for a month. And I worked two days a week. And I still signed clients. Oh, my gosh, it’s possible, right? Like, so often, we grow our business, because we want to be have able to have that freedom. And I actually created it. So that’s pretty cool.
Lesley Logan 23:18
Okay, that’s cool. So I want to go back to the be it till you see it there. Because obviously, it’s felt like a trial. Is this a trial run to see if you could like work two days?
Candy Motzek 23:26
No, it’s a trial run, because I want to go away for two months of the year, so one month in the summer, one month in the winter? And can I do that and still have a business and not, you know, sort of go crazy with stress and all that kind of stuff.
Lesley Logan 23:41
That’s so cool. So for you to do that. If you don’t mind, like sharing, like, like, is there? What did you to change about your habits and your and your, your work schedule to make that happen? Because I know for me, like when I wanted to take a month off in December because it’s what I want to do. I was like, okay, so that means we have to just film a little extra, every month. So we decided to take 12 months of the year of work and like condense it into 11. Like, is that the process you went through? Or what was that like?
Candy Motzek 24:11
I like to batch. And so for my podcast, I’m usually I’ve recorded probably two to three months in advance. So it’s just making sure that I’m really well prepared. And that is one of the places that being in corporate really sets you up good for that is that I know that I need to send out my emails, I know that I you know, have these different meetings, I know that I want to guest on shows and all of that kind of stuff. And so I just squish it all in. I’ve got it down. It’s pretty systematized. A lot of the system isn’t something that’s super documented in a fancy process map, but I know what I need to do to create my podcast episodes. And so then I just do it, you know, I record them all then I do all the episode notes. Then I do this then I do the next then I do the next. And as soon as I start doing that, it makes my life so much easier. And then I’m freed up for those other projects. Sometimes it’s a go away for a month. Sometimes it’s another project that I wanted to work on. So it’s about being systematized and batching the work.
Lesley Logan 25:15
Hmm. I like that. Because I even throw in there like another project I want to work on I, I think we tried to, like, fit things downwards. Like, let’s fit one more thing in. And you mentioned earlier, when you’re saying like, people do all the busy work, you fit this thing in, and it’s like having the focus of like, what’s the goal? What am I trying to do? What are the systems I have to do to make sure that gets done? And then how do I do it in the manner that let’s say, have a month off, and then you had to, had to take so you’re in Mexico, we just were there for a week. And we’re like, on vacation. It was a great test for our business, like can the team handle things while we’re gone. And we’re not checking the emails and, and, and I’m gonna throw Brad under the bus with two hands. He got, he got caught with the computer at the bar. While we’re on vacation, because I went downstairs, and he’s like, oh, introduced me to a chef at the hotel. And the chef’s like, oh, yeah, I met him when he was at his computer, by himself at the bar with his computer. And like, with your computer, really, we were working? While I was sleeping. So like, how did that what was that like for your mindset to go from like, maybe a four-day work schedule, or five-day to two.
Candy Motzek 26:26
So it was a bit stressful. Because, you know, I love working on my business. And I always have another project and another creative idea. But it was more important to try it. You know, like, can I actually do it? And then the surprising thing was that the house that we had rented, the Internet was really not great. And so I had to go and find a co-working spot. So I went, I rented a private office, you know, half an hour away. And that meant those two days of work. I went there, and I worked. And so even though it was a little bit nerve-wracking to begin with, I’m like, What do you mean, the Internet just stops, that’s gonna work for me. But then finding the place and once I found it, then it was like two days, I probably got four days worth of work done in two days. But it’s the client time, you know, that client, making sure that my clients are, you know, really connected, so.
Lesley Logan 27:25
Yeah, I also I love how the universe was like conspiring for you. It was like, oh, let’s just take her Internet away. So she can really see if she can go away for a month. Like she’s really you know, but also I, you know, you brought up something like, I work from home. And so it can be really there’s a lot of distractions, because there’s dogs, there’s, Tuesdays are the worst because the poop guy comes he picks up the poop and the landscaper and the housekeeper, just like oh my god. I don’t I’m just like, I’m just like coordinating humans. And I’m not getting anything done. So I love that you found like a co-working space and you like you kind of have to just be there. Because you’ve only got a limited time that it’s open and you got to get back in a half hour away. So it kind of forced you to like, you know, move more systemized in those two days that you had.
Candy Motzek 28:10
Exactly, yeah. So it works. It works like a charm.
Lesley Logan 28:13
I think that’s a great way people can like set themselves up for success. If you don’t have a lot of time for something like put yourself in a position where you could just like, focus on the thing while you’re there. And do it. I interviewed somebody the other day. And she said she’s like, you know what, when I was trying to do this side hustle thing and make it my real thing. She was also an engineering tech. She, in the tech world, she’s like, I wrote my book from 11pm to 2am. Once a week. Oh, wow. And I was like, wow, I couldn’t have done that. That’s impressive.
Candy Motzek 28:44
Yeahh, I’d like to sleep. So yeah. The concept, but it’s the concept, right? It’s like, this is something I really want. This is what I’m willing to do to get it and go.
Lesley Logan 28:55
Yeah. Also, like, I mean, Brad will say this too, like he gets his best work done after I’ve gone to bed because no one else is up like no one’s calling no one’s texting. No one’s emailing, it’s less distractions, you know, um, so, you know, you have to figure out what system works for you. So what’s next for you, Candy, like, what are you, obviously two months off a year is the goal, but like, what are what’s the next thing you’re being at till you see?
Candy Motzek 29:19
Yeah, so for me, it is yes, two months off a year. But also, I’m shifting slightly. So still doing my one on one practice because I love those private coaching conversations. But I’m going to be moving into having a membership as well. That’s going to satisfy that community place for people and give them an opportunity for some group coaching. Some I’ve got a lot of recorded content and so I might as well pop it into a membership. So shifting, shifting how I do business, and this is a direct result of what I learned when I was away. I was like oh wait a minute, if I want to continue to grow my business and take time off, I need to look at a different balance of a model. And so this is this is the past.
Lesley Logan 30:09
Yeah, I love the ideas that come from like getting out of the business and getting out of your normal routines and like you figure out what you miss. And you also go, oh, that’s what I’ve been. That’s what I really want. I want more of that. Yeah, yeah, that’s really cool. Like, thank you for sharing that with us. That’s gonna be really fun to check back in and see how you do it. Because I think people get stuck on okay, once I do this, and that’s it. And it’s like, actually, we’re all always growing. So like, it’s so you know, like, you don’t have to know all the steps, the staircase, the steps in the staircase, you just have to know the next one, and then get there. And then you can let that, let it evolve. You don’t have to have the full picture right away.
Candy Motzek 30:48
And you never, you can’t have the full picture right away because you have no idea what you want. Like now I have a reason to want that. So now I created it to go with the desire, right? But before it was just a random idea. It doesn’t mean anything.
Lesley Logan 31:04
Yeah, I like that. I like that a lot. We’re gonna take a quick break, and then we’re gonna come out, come back and find out people can find you, follow you, maybe get this membership with you.
Lesley Logan 31:12
Alright, Candy, where do you like to hang out? Where do people get to, like, follow along with what you’re doing?
Candy Motzek 31:18
So they can always come and listen to my podcast. They’re listening to your show, so they can just come on over and listen to mine. It’s She Coaches Coaches. Of course, it’s on all the players and everywhere under the sun. That’s the easiest way.
Lesley Logan 31:30
Yeah. Wonderful. Okay, before I let you go, you’ve given us like, I love the the five things, but what bold, executable, intrinsic, target steps can people take to be it till they see it? What do you have for us?
Candy Motzek 31:42
Yeah, so every time I hear that, be it till you see it. I always think of the word “be.” And so that really is the start of it. So the practical place is that if you practice not reaching the goal that you want to get, it’s not that sort of, I’ve climbed Mount Everest, and here I am at the top of the mountain. It’s what is life like, once you’ve already been there. So whatever the next step that they want to be, is be that now. And so that’s be that individual, as they’re washing their dishes, as they’re brushing their teeth in that common everyday place of land. So the practical part is start to play with it. Just like who am I when I’m already that? You know, Pilates instructor who am I when I’m already that fully booked, coach, as I’m getting dressed for the day, as I’m brushing my teeth, and as you’re doing your day-to-day actions, just play with the feeling of being and you’ll get there real fast.
Lesley Logan 32:46
Oh, I love that so much, you guys. I that’s exactly why the show exists. And it’s it’s just interesting. Like, if you think that you’re gonna be this fun person once you’ve been there, then what’s not? How can you make washing the dishes fun? Can you pull out some rap music while you’re washing the dishes? You know, like, what can you, what can you do so that you can actually be that person today? Thank you, Candy. We could keep going. We’ll have to have you back and everyone, you can go to her podcast literally wherever you listen to this. It’s like just do little search thing, we’ll have it in the show notes actually, so just a little swipe up and it’s right there. And until next time, Be It Till You See It.
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