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Ep. 457 Special: Favorite Relationship EPs

“We need reminders of what we learned to take the next steps in our life to be it till we see it.”

Lesley Logan

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Lesley Logan and Brad Crowell revisit powerful moments on relationships from the Be It Till You See It archives. Featuring insights on divorce, grief, narcissism, and harmony, this curated episode offers actionable advice to foster deeper bonds and inspire transformation. Whether you’re discovering new episodes or revisiting old favorites, this compilation will empower you to Be It Till You See It in your relationships.

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In this episode you will learn about:

• Renee Bauer shares how embracing her divorce story led to empowerment and connection.
• Krista St-Germain explains how Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) helps process grief and calm the nervous system.
• Rebecca Zung reframes narcissistic relationships, focusing on recognizing your value.
• Kelli Adame highlights the importance of setting boundaries and understanding your feelings for healthier relationships.

Episode References/Links:

• Ep. 217 with Renee Bauer – https://beitpod.com/ep217
• Ep. 235 with Krista St-Germain – https://beitpod.com/ep235
• Ep. 268 with Rebecca Zung – https://beitpod.com/ep268
• Ep. 280 Kelli Adame Williams – https://beitpod.com/ep280
• Renee Bauer Website and Podcast – https://msreneebauer.com/
• Krita St-Germain Website – https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/
• Rebecca Zung’s Website – https://www.rebeccazung.com/
• Kelli Adame Website – https://kelliadame.com/meet-kelli/
• Kelli Adame Website – https://www.lovebravelyacademy.com/

Transcript

Lesley Logan
Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I’m Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I’ve trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it’s the antidote to fear. Each week, my guests will bring Bold, Executable, Intrinsic and Targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It’s a practice, not a perfect. Let’s get started.

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Lesley Logan 0:42
Hi, Be It babe. Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview, not recap, but episodes, recaps.

Brad Crowell 0:48
What?

Lesley Logan 0:49
What? What are we doing here? Well.

Brad Crowell 0:50
We’re changing it up.

Lesley Logan 0:51
We’re changing it up for December, and we’re figuring it out as we go along. But actually, the team has prepared really epic episodes for you for all month long, and today’s episode is some of our favorite relationship episodes. So we’re actually going to have four different clips for you from some of our favorite guests who have something to say about relationships.

Brad Crowell 1:09
Yeah, yeah. So we’re going to dig in.

Lesley Logan 1:11
So whether you’re single or not, there’s actually probably a clip in here for you. And we know that we just, I mentioned this is episode 457, which means there’s a couple 100 episodes of interviews, and if you just are joining us now, you might not have listened to all of those. So what our hope is this month is that by clipping some of our favorite parts of different topics, that it might take you to a direct episode that’s going to really work with what you need and where you’re at. So today’s episode is on relationship, but we’ll have grief, we’ll have divorce, we’ll have masculine and feminine energy guests. We actually have one about narcissism. So you know, relationships is a broad topic. So you can be single or in a relationship, and you could be super happy and still have some clip in here that might resonate with you. So here we go.

Lesley Logan 1:59
All right. Loves our first clip we have for you is from our guest Renee Bauer, back in Episode 217. The topic is on divorce, and one of the parts I really loved, and I want you to hear is about just owning it.

Brad Crowell 2:11
Yeah and the second part that we really liked in this episode was about finding your tribe. So here we go.

Renee Bauer 2:23
I had gone on a friend’s podcast and she started, she said, I’m gonna interview you. I’ll bring sushi over. We’ll have a couple martinis. It’ll be all good. So she did that. I’m like, ooh, sushi, okay. I’m in. We poured the martini. She clipped on the mic and she started asking me about my divorce and maybe I was a little buzzed, but I actually started answering really honestly. And when that episode came out, people had reached out to me to say like, hey, that was my story too. Thank you for speaking so vulnerably about it. And that’s when I realized I need to talk about this and not be ashamed about it. And so now, now it’s like, it’s second nature to just, to be like, yeah, I’m divorced twice, so what? You know? And so it was, it was sharing it, and I think so often, People don’t wanna share that. And they’re almost like, apologize. It’s like, you know, the whisper like, oh, I’m divorced, or I’m twice divorced. And it’s like, just own it. Be like, you know what? I was in two relationships that didn’t work out and I made the brave decision to leave that because I wanted more from our family, for us, for our kids.
And you know, that’s okay. Find your tribe. Find a support system that may not include friends and family. So those people who are around you now, they’re really well intentioned, but they may not be the best person to go to. So find a community of people, and there’s so many of them out there in this world, and like, I have a private Facebook group for divorced women, but find a really positive tribe of people who get what you’re going through so you don’t feel so alone in it.

Lesley Logan 4:00
All right, so now we’re going to talk about the topic of grief. And Krista St-Germain from Episode 235, one of the most beautiful episodes we have. Honestly, I actually think about this episode a lot, because we happen to lose people in our lives all the time, but this particular one was about how she lost her spouse, and she talks about the Emotional Freedom Technique. And I think this is a really cool technique that we can all use no matter where we are in our lives. So.

Brad Crowell 4:25
Yeah, that’s EFT, if you’re not familiar.

Lesley Logan 4:27
Yeah, tap away.

Krista St-Germain 4:34
This was hard for me because I have lots of ideas, and so I’m just going to go with one. So I’m a big fan of tapping, Emotional Freedom Technique. So thankfully, I had tapping in my pocket before my husband died. I already knew how to do it, and I knew how, and I had used it with my children when they were very little, and they were 12 and nine when Hugo died, so they had to use it for a number of years. But I love tapping because it creates calm in the nervous system and it allows us to let feelings flow through. It’s great for grief grenades, right? Any sort of triggering situation where our nervous system is responding as though we are unsafe. So for me, the sound of metal crashing, CPR scenes, sirens, right, things like that. Tapping helped me in the moment when my nervous system was just tripping out. And then it also helped me to work with someone who could help me go back and neutralize those triggers so that when I remembered them or encountered them in my environment, my nervous system stopped thinking I was in danger, right? So I am a big proponent of that. You can just go to YouTube and learn all about tapping, right? You don’t have to pay anyone to teach it to you.

Brad Crowell 5:48
All right, y’all, I hope you found that super helpful and calming. EFT, the tapping technique to be able to pull out that tool and use that when you need it. All right. Next up, we got Episode 268, with Rebecca Zung, we are going to SLAY Your Way Out of a Narcissist. Okay?

Lesley Logan 6:08
Yeah, I was so, this is like, when I, when Rebecca agreed to be on the pod, I was like, this is amazing. This is what all of our listeners need. And something that I think is, if you love this clip, I really hope you go back and listen to the full episode, because it will give you a lot of empowerment. If you were someone who’s like, I always find, narcissists always find me. You will hear why they find you.

Brad Crowell 6:29
Yeah, and I think there’s a key in this, and it’s value. And I, this hit home for me in a very real way. So this is a very powerful clip, and the episode is amazing. So here we go.

Rebecca Zung 6:50
And I always remind people, they don’t attach themselves to you because you have so little value. They attach themselves to you because you have so much value, even though they’re devaluing you right away. They look for someone who’s going to be a great source of supply for them, whether it’s making them look good or giving them, you know, their ego looks good, because either with you or they are, you’re going to be a great business partner for them because you’re going to feed them a lot of things, or you’re going to be a great romantic partner because you’re either going to give them lots of adulation, or you look good on their arm, or you have lots of money, or whatever it’s going to be, right? So they look for someone who’s going to feed something within them, because they’re so empty inside.

Lesley Logan 7:51
All right. So that was Episode 268. Definitely go back and listen to that if you find narcissists have been finding you. Our last clip that we want to put in this relationship special is Episode 280, Create More Harmony in Your Relationship, with Kelli Adame Williams. We love Kelli Adame. We had so many people tell us how epic, she had two episodes on the podcast, actually, and I really, really enjoyed it. But the first one was really about kind of giving us permission to understand what we need and who we are, and also what we’re saying yes to. So here is Episode 280 with Kelli Adame.

Kelli Adame 8:41
So I tell women like, this is a good practice, like, don’t do something, ask yourself, does this feel good to me? And if it doesn’t, the answer is no, thank you. We’re also so conditioned to say yes and to just do it. But then we can be resentful about that, then we can be passive aggressive about that. Then we can feel like, well, you owe me because I did this. No, you weren’t, you weren’t clear with you first. Does that make sense?

Lesley Logan 9:06
Oh, yeah.

Kelli Adame 9:07
That’s the whole thing. To be in a healthy relationship, you have to be able to take personal responsibility for your behavior, your actions, your words, but you also have to know what you’re feeling.

Lesley Logan 9:16
Well, I hope this is really fun for you. I know that this is a very different way of the Be It Pod going, but our goal here is to, one, help you figure out which episodes in the past catalog might be helpful for you, but also just highlight some of our favorite takeaways, especially as the end of the year is here, there’s so much chaos. You know, sometimes we need reminders of what we learned so we can take that information and take the next steps in our life to be it till we see it.

Brad Crowell 9:41
Yeah. If you enjoyed this, let us know. We actually need to know. If you dug the change up today.

Lesley Logan 9:46
Yeah, if you hated it, you can send us a message. If you loved it, you can leave a review. That’s your Christmas present to us. Or, or, I heard a podcast say, still give us five stars, but then you can tell us you didn’t like it in the review. That’s fine, but the five stars is important.

Brad Crowell 10:05
Well, thanks for listening, y’all and stick around. We’ve got a couple more fun episodes for you this month that are in a similar vein. Is this right?

Lesley Logan 10:12
Yeah, we’re gonna do our favorite health episodes, and we’re gonna do, I think, our business tip ones.

Brad Crowell 10:12
We got favorite tips, bold moments.

Lesley Logan 10:22
Bold moments.

Brad Crowell 10:23
Favorite biz Tips.

Lesley Logan 10:24
You know what? You’re just gonna really enjoy.

Brad Crowell 10:26
Cool advice.

Lesley Logan 10:26
This whole month.

Brad Crowell 10:27
It’s gonna be good.

Lesley Logan 10:28
It’s a potpourri.

Brad Crowell 10:29
Oh, and then we have a special one on the 31st.

Lesley Logan 10:32
Oh.

Brad Crowell 10:33
Yeah.

Lesley Logan 10:34
Okay, can I tell them?

Brad Crowell 10:35
I think you might as well hint at it at least.

Lesley Logan 10:37
I already, because I just interviewed them. We’re gonna get your astrology reading for 2025 from the Mom & Me Astrologers, Kate and Mary Swick. So do not, don’t skip ahead. You can’t because it won’t go to the 31st, but also, don’t wait till it comes out. You gotta listen to all these little round ups we’ve got for you. I’m Lesley Logan.

Brad Crowell 10:46
And I’m Brad Crowell.

Lesley Logan 10:59
Thank you so much for listening. And until next time, you know what to do, Be It Till You See It.

Brad Crowell 11:03
Bye for now.
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Lesley Logan
That’s all I’ve got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate this show and leave a review. And, follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to podcasts. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over on IG at the @be_it_pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others to BE IT TILL YOU SEE IT. Have an awesome day!

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Lesley Logan
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Brad Crowell
It’s written, filmed and recorded by your host, Lesley Logan and me, Brad Crowell.

Lesley Logan
It is transcribed, produced and edited by the epic team at Disenyo.co.

Brad Crowell
Our theme music is by Ali at APEX Production Music and our branding by designer and artist Gianfranco Cioffi.

Lesley Logan
Special thanks to Melissa Solomon for creating our visuals.

Brad Crowell
Also to Angelina Herico for adding all of our content to our website. And finally to Meridith Root for keeping us all on point and on time.

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