Money is Just Energy

Ep. 19 ft. Clare Solly

“What you need will come when you need it.”

Clare Solly

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Bio

A long term friend of Lesley, and a bossbabe who has published 2 of her own novels and has more on the way, Clare is a master manifester who has made many of her own dreams come true. She has dug herself out of debt TWICE, runs two indie theater companies in NYC, and runs her own company You Wont Be Solly where you can learn her tricks and tips to being a master manifester or write your own book or both! Clare is a highly energetic soul who makes you know you can conquor anything put in your path!

Show Notes

Lesley interviews Clare Solly, her longtime slingshot friend, who lives in New York, writes and publishes books, and is a master manifester. They dig deep into money mindset, the subconscious, how to create change in your life and much more.

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In this episode you will learn about:

  • Taking the leap (moving to NY)
  • Slingshot friend
  • Money is energy
  • Mantras and belief
  • Squeezing life vs relaxing
  • Our sub-conscience only hears tangible words
  • Reframe it to the positive… “I have $10 in my wallet!”
  • Meditating & thinking of expansion… “I have so much space for money.” Her “mental warehouse” and your current pile or debt only sits in the far corner
  • Just start telling people you’re writing a book… they will keep you honest
  • Do it in small steps
  • Be realistic but don’t doubt yourself
  • Don’t be afraid of money… it flows in and out
  • If you show up, stuff will show up for you

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Transcript

INTRODUCTION

Lesley Logan
Hello you. How are you doing today? Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast. I’m so glad you’re back. And this is your first time listening.

Lesley Logan
Welcome! Today’s guest is actually one of my favorite human. She’s known me since I was like 18/19 years old. We were joking on the podcast that like our friendship is like legally allowed to drink. And so if you watched on the YouTube channel, you saw us cheers our water. But the truth is, is that Clare Solly is our guest today and the reason I wanted to have her on is because y’all she is a master manifester. And she also has led a life journey that is something that I believe we’re all on and she has done it and like when it’s you know, that quote, like you can’t connect the dots going forward, you can only going to connect them going backwards, I think it’s the, the apple guy’s thing. Anyways, um, she is someone… the two of us, like, we designed shoes together at one point in our lives, we both worked at the same retail shop. And you know, she’ll hear her talk about how we like slingshot each other like, we are two friends who will go through like years, we talk every single week and then a year where we don’t talk at all. And it’s not anything personal. It is just us doing life and helping each other out and like talking about a book we should read or somebody should do. And what I want you to know about Clare is she is a money mindset coach, and she’s also a book writing coach. But we talked a lot about money mindset in here. And it was really important to me because I really do think that most of you if you’re listening this do believe you can Be It Till You See It and you are looking for different tips and strategies to make that happen. And just also remind yourself to do it everyday cuz it is like it’s a muscle, right? Like this muscle of being until you see it even when like there’s no evidence that it’s actually working. Trust me, I know I’ve been there like, y’all, I was homeless, and my car was totaled. And the studio I rented Pilates from was closing. And there was not a lot of evidence every single day, or even for weeks that was showing me that like I was on the right path. And then I got this phone call that I was the best Pilates Instructor in Los Angeles by Los Angeles Magazine. So, whoo! It’s pat on the back. But like, I know how hard it is because of that. Like, it’s not the only time where you can be it till you see it and just be who am I like really? Is this even working? Is this BS? And so I wanted to bring her on to talk about money mindset because she has gotten herself in and out of that two times. She has some great tips to talk to you about. And so you are going to… to read her entire bio in the show notes because you’re gonna be like, what, “Who is this woman?” But I’ll tell you a quick little thing about her. She is a longtime friend of me. And she’s a total boss babe, who has published two of her own novels and has more on the way, Clare is a master manifester, who has made many of her own dreams come true. She has dug herself out of debt twice runs to Indie theatre companies in New York City and she runs her own company, You Won’t Be Solly, where you can learn her trick… tricks and tips to being a master manifester. Or even write your own book or both. You also get the money mindset coaching. So anyways, keep reading in the show notes about how amazing she is, and take a listen. And this is going to be something around rewind and listen to how she manifests money in her life and how you can too so that you can Be It Till You See It. So now check out this message and then we’ll get to the show.

Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I’m Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and business fitness coach. I’ve trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it’s the antidote to fear. Each week, my guests will bring Bold, Executable, Intrinsic and Targeted steps that you can use to out yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It’s a practice, not a perfect. Let’s get started.

EPISODE

Lesley Logan
Okay, everyone, welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast. Okay, I promise you that this is a podcast and it’s not just a phone call between two friends. But today’s guest has been one of my sisters from other mothers and besties since, I think it started, I think we met each other in 2002? Because on (Clare: That’s not right.) 2002?

Clare Solly
No, I had you before that 2000 or 2001 I think.

Lesley Logan
Yeah, it was back. I was in college and I was looking for a job and I just remember walking into the store and it was like everything about it was just like so beautiful. And then there was Clare, and she was standing this counter and I swear because she’s so tall. I thought she was standing on like, like a counter like it was like a porch. But the counter was around when I did get the job. And that was just the same floor as like, How tall is that girl? Anyways, Clare Solly is our guest today and Clare, will you tell everyone where you’re from and who you are, all the things.

Clare Solly
I’ve happily, my name is Clare Solly. I am calling in or calling in, zooming in, podcasting in from Queens, New York. For those of you that know New York City, I’m right by LaGuardia Airport. I’ve been in the New York area, mostly Manhattan, for the last 10 years. It’ll be 11 in September, and I am a Jill-of-All-Trades, and I’m a coach, a wellness coach and money management and book coach, and, and many other things.

Lesley Logan
Yeah, I mean, we’ve both had many lives together and are kind of known each other because we also were shoe designers together. And I forgot about that until one day someone brought something up and I was like, “Oh, yeah, I used to design shoes.” And they’re like, “You used to design shoes?” I’m like, “Yeah, and we actually sold them for a lot of money.”

Clare Solly
We did! We did, we sold them for a lot of shoes. You know, it’s funny, um, I was thinking about this, like, last week, and I was like, “Oh, where’s the piece of paper, I have to write this down.” Because it just like came across my brain. And you are my slingshot friend, like you are my friend that like, projects me forward. And then like, we meet up, and then like, I shoot you forward in something like, we always send each other like sound bites and tidbits and like, “Hey, you should listen to this,” or, “You should go read this book,” or, you know, “It’s okay, chin up, you’ll get through this.” And it’s like, I don’t think I would be where I am if you weren’t in my life. Like we continually just help each other propel forward. And it’s weird, because it’s like, you know how runners like, you know this because you are a runner. Like when you’re in a race like runners, you don’t want to run alone, you want to run a track with other people to help you keep pace. And like, I don’t see myself anywhere competing with you, but it, seriously, it feels like you’re my slingshot friend. Like you were just like, “Keep going forward.” And then I’m like, “Oh, okay, it’s your turn, you go forward!” So, anyway…

Lesley Logan
I love it. I’ve not heard that term of “slingshot friend,” but it’s absolutely so true. Because, you know, you are the one who put my application at the top to make sure… cuz I got a phone call before… I rode… I rode the bus at that time. So I got a phone call before I was even off the bus. And then, you know, we just we’ve been doing that for each other since since, like, 21 years, our friendship can drink. Cheers to that! Um, and so but here’s the thing that I, one of the things that I wanted to bring you on for cuz I mean, besides that, you’re one of my best friends and I wanted to just chat with you. And hear so people could hear like how we’ve helped each other out. It’s that when you moved to New York, it was to me, one of the Be It Till You See It, it’s like in like, I got to watch it happen. Because you know, you were out of college, we were living in Orange County, and you would go to New York and you would like pretend to be like, you would go to New York and walk around and you went there frequently before you move there. And I always felt like, and maybe I was making it up, but I always felt like you were like, basically pretending to live there when you would go there so that you would like have friendships and have connections so that you could move. Am I making that up?

Clare Solly
Yeah, no, you’re not. It’s interesting that you say that too. Because just now as you were talking about it, like I always think about like those the like the people that like make it big. And there’s always like that very low moment, right before they completely go massively, like large or whatever. And, and I don’t know, like, it was weird, because there were all these little things that were like, massive at the time. Um, so yeah, so I, and they were all negative things like it was all directing me away from the life that I was in that I was living. I was living in Southern California. I had decided I um… I’d gotten my degree, I got a double emphasis degree in acting and design so I could like create, you know, design theater productions, do costumes and whatnot. And I wasn’t using it. I went into the corporate world, I was working in a desk job. I liked it, but I wasn’t, like I was more like, I was in my early/mid 20s… I was in my mid 20s. And I was like, hey, let’s do the like picket fence and the husband and the house and the dogs and the kids and let’s head down that path. And you know, I don’t really need theater anymore. And then I started I was visiting New York. A friend of mine had moved here. She got breast cancer. So I started visiting a couple of times a year for like two years. She ended up, ended up passing away… I got shingles at 28, like a terrible case of shingles. I was, um, I was like, on, I was down from my job for about a month and then I went back to work. And things just sort of didn’t work out and they ended up moving me into a different position and sort of like they were trying to get me out kind of situation. And finally, (Lesley: Yeah, the writing’s on the wall when that’s happening.) Yeah, they finally just kind of like let me go and gave me severance. And I was on unemployment for a while, and I was like, “What do I do?” Like, I’m not getting, you know, I’m not happy in life. Like, what? What am I doing? Like, I tried, I tried, you know, I guess I tried the saving money and having a car and trying to buy a house and like, I was dating like crazy. And like nothing, not like no relationships were sticking, like, I’m talking about biological clock ticking like it was going crazy at the end of my at the end of my 20s. And I was like, I was seeing friends move to New York and actually just be moving back because they either made it enough or they didn’t make it or they were trying it. I was like, “Wait, why am I not doing this?” And so I, um, I sold or got rid of, you know, donated anything and everything I had, I was living with a friend at the time. I boxed up like a lot of my clothes and shipped them to New York, and traveled on a plane with two suitcases. And I remember so distinctly when I got off the plane in New York with my two overweight suitcase. My two extremely heavy suitcases, I set them down and it felt like the weight of the world had lifted and I was finally home and the suitcases like I went to pick them up again. And they felt like nothing. And I you know, I moved into my Harlem apartment and pursued theatre here for a couple of years. And I did a couple of Off Broadway shows and did a whole bunch of other like, regional shows and different indie theater productions and stuff here did some film work. So it you know, it didn’t you know, I’m not famous. I’m not a superstar. But I did get to live that dream. So that was very exciting. And I like I… hope and a prayer. Like I saved up money for a year and just moved here hoping it would work out.

Lesley Logan
See, I, what I was, what I was… what I loved about you sharing, like all the bad things that happened is, it was literally like the universe going how many doors do you have to close on this girl to get her to get on a plane? And we off… I think we can easily see these things that are in air quotes “Bad,” like it’s bad thing, and actually, no, it’s just that you’re just on someone else’s path. You’re not listening. And it’s so true. Like, I think it’s really easy. Even if you’re like a rebel to somehow, still end up going through the white picket fence with the partner with the 2.5 kids and and think well, I could still have it all. And it’s, you know, no – you’re, you… even if you didn’t make it, like on the the lights of a Broadway show as the star, doesn’t mean you didn’t make your dream happen and in a different capacity. And, it puts you on this other path that you’re on. And you mentioned something like you saved up for a year, which I mean, it’s so hard for me to save up. I was like we’re moving to Vegas. We have nine days we’re going to make it happen. I just I’m a little too impatient. But I think a lot of people that where they get stuck is so they’re like, “Okay, LL, alright Clare, that sounds great,” like, “Yyou moved, good for you, like you saved up for a year,” but it’s easy for people… the money is something that really gets, keeps them from doing something. Either because it’s too expensive to try or they’re too in debt to even get, to see the forest to the trees. And I know that you have some really awesome experience in money mindset, and I was hoping you would share a little bit of that with us.

Clare Solly
I’d love to um, I, you know I’ve it’s funny because I have dug myself out of debt twice. And I, again, moved across the country, had no job. Like I was working few part time jobs and I like magically found I was here for eight months before I found a job. So like things just sort of, I don’t want to say they magically worked out because like, I remember working hard for things and there were days where like I was panicked and whatever. But money… The thing, the thing that people don’t understand about money, is money is just energy, like, like a calorie is just energy. So we want to burn calories. We want eat enough calories. It’s, it’s just an exchange of energy. So, money, for all intents and purposes, like way back in the medieval times, you know, you had a goat, and you wanted some corn, so you could, you know, feed your family, and so and you know, some milk and whatever. So you would trade your goat, but the guy who had the corn didn’t necessarily need a goat. So you would trade the goat to somebody else. For some, I don’t know, for a donkey. And then you would trade the donkey to the… it was just a… money made it easier for people to exchange things, you could just sell one thing outright use money to pay for another thing. So…

Lesley Logan
And actually, you know, where this is really funny not to interrupt you, but I’m going to… the thing about money also is it became easier for them to track debt. And that’s really like was the biggest implicit impetus to like making money, something you would hold on to and a half tangible and have meaning on it? Because they needed to track people’s debt. because like you said, you know, you would trade a donkey for a goat. But like, the guy who wanted the donkey to give it to the big burly guy only had a goat. So he owes that donkey guy money.

Clare Solly
Yeah! Oh my gosh. And like, we could go on and on about debt and credit scores, and all of the shenanigans that like that stuff is like, oh, like, I’ll come back and talk about that another day. (Lesley: Yeah) Um, but so money is just energy. So if you hold that, and that’s a hard concept for people to understand. It is just a flow of energy. And that’s the important word in that sentence: flow. So you have to let things flow, you can’t just sit there with your pile of money and go, “Oh, my gosh, this is my pile of money. I hope that it’s enough.” Did I have enough money didn’t move to New York, I absolutely did not. I, I just knew that I would eventually figure out how to make more… money. You can always make more money, you can always earn more money, you can li… it, you can spend more money, it’s totally fine. So you can’t just sit there and hold your money in a vacuum, you have to like let it go out. And, and it will come in. And something I started doing actually, with it going out, that the outflow and inflow of money is… everybody gets so excited when they win money or when you get a little bit more money, or you realize you look at your bank account on your phone, and you’re like, “Oh my gosh, there’s 100 more dollars in there than I thought.” But nobody ever cheers the money going out. And the thing is, when money leaves your hands when you pay your electric bill, when you pay your cable bill, you’re putting other people to work. You’re creating an ecosystem, you’re helping move things along. When you donate money, when you buy groceries, like it is such a bigger picture than just a dollar. So anytime you put money out into the world, you’re creating a flow. So you should be very excited. And so when I write, especially when I write big checks, or when I know that like, like my car payment is coming out of my bank account, I will go look at it, and I will get really happy and really excited that that money is going away from me. And it never fails, (Lesley Logan: I love this so much) It never fails. Like within 48 hours, a good chunk of money comes back to me that I either didn’t remember that was coming in or just magically decided to flow my way magically. I don’t know why I should say that it just decided to blow my way. So because I am a channel for money, which if you know if you’re not into flow and things like that, then and vibrations and whatever this might sound a little woowoo. But if you know whatever faith you believe in whatever you believe in, like universe, God, whatever, things show up for you when you need them. And when you prove you need them, or you prove that you’re going to use them well, they will show up for you. So…

Lesley Logan
I think, did we both read Big Magic at the same time?

Clare Solly
We did! Because that was your first podcast – we were originally going to get through a book club podcast.

Lesley Logan
We were, we totally were, we totally were. And oh my god, we somehow will have to make that happen. That book has so much staying power. It’s like five years old. But the same thing that comes with ideas and creativity is money, because it is all energy, right? Everything is. And it’s really true. If you like, like if you hold on to an idea and you don’t tell anyone about it, guess what, you will never make it happen. It like ideas want to be born and they have to be talked about. And you can share them because James Altucher said to in a podcast like seven years ago and it changed my world. He said 98% of people will never take action on idea. So you could literally tell everybody your ideas and lit… only 2% of them might actually take action. That doesn’t mean they’ll do them. And even if they did, because they’re not you it won’t be the same thing, right? So, so the so the reason I came up was like, I grew up in a household that like the money was gone before it came in because we were in debt. So it was just like always gone. And it was always, “No, we can’t afford it. No, we can afford it.” And I remember being in college and people invited me things and saying, “No, I can’t afford it.” And I got really annoyed when it came out of my mouth, because I sounded like my parents and I was like, “I don’t want to say that. I don’t want to say I can’t afford anything anymore. I want to have new phrases.” So Clare, for someone who is like, “Okay, I believe money is energy, I hear you, but I really don’t feel like I can afford things right now.” What do they need to say instead so that it doesn’t have that, like, “I know I can’t afford it,” or, “I don’t have any money.” Like, what’s a better phrase?

Clare Solly
I mean, going back to your, your, your bringing… up-bringing, like, a lot of people feel that they’re in a famine situation. And it’s like, well, no, you’re not in a famine situation. Like, you have clean flowing water, you have a roof over your head, you have two hands, or you have a mind you have, um, you have abilities to do things no matter who you are, no matter what background you have, um, and if you can’t afford things, do you really need them? So that’s part of it. And for people that are listening that are like bare bones, like, “Ahh, I have no money,” like just take a breath, ask for what you need. Tell yourself – I started having a mantra about 20 years ago and I said I posted that sticky notes on my mirror, on my bedroom, on my bedroom wall like on the doorframe as I would walk out of my room. It was on my mirror in the bathroom. And my mantra was, “All the money I want need will be available. All the money I want and need will be available.” And I just said that mantra. Anytime I got afraid, because that’s the thing… You were in this famine situation and you were afraid so, or your family was afraid, so you were… think of like, you know, flow, you know, in whatever vessel, whatever tube in whatever highway… and it’s like being squeezed. It’s like your fists are being squeezed, like nothing’s going to flow through that, right? Um, and like your blood’s not going to flow if you tense your muscles, like things like that. So you have to relax and you have to refocus and go, “I am okay. I am not afraid. Everything I want will be provided for me.” Like, “Whatever I need will be there.” You just have… and it sounds completely bonkers, completely bonkers. And I laugh because I had a moment, one day, like right before I moved to New York, where I was panicked that I would not be able to afford toothpaste. I had a panic attack brushing my teeth, because I’ve had half a tube of toothpaste and I was like what if this is the last toothpaste I can ever afford? What… I’m moving across the country, I have $1,000 in my bank account. I don’t know what I’m going to do… literally had a panic attack over toothpaste. And it is hysterical because every time I panic about money now, toothpaste or toothbrush shows up in my life, some sort of like, some sort of freebie or a friend, like, gives me a tube of toothpaste or, like, it’s just the weirdest thing. It’s and if you (Lesley: It’s a good sign saying, “Hey, Clare, you have money because you have toothpaste.”) It’s, it’s just crazy. And if you just sit back, and, and relax, and you can take my mantra if you want, you can have your own – whatever will help you center and relax and just know that what you need will come when you need it. Just like the toothpaste for me. You will get it.

Lesley Logan
I agree. Like I think, I know you’re a master manifester. And I think, um, you know, I think some people, they, they have a hard time with the manifesting because I think that they know what they want, but they are manifesting like it might not happen. I don’t think that they realize that they’re doing that because they’re like, “I really want this thing,” but while they’re thinking about they’re thinking of all the different ways you could go wrong, are all the different ways of why it’s not their turn or it’s not their time, or they don’t have time, or you know what I mean? And so, so what are what are some? What are some of your ways of like manifesting like what’s your favorite way to man…, I don’t know, is there a way you manifest?

Clare Solly
I mean, our crazy monkey-brain… our subconscious doesn’t hear negative words. It only hears like the tangible word. So if you’re like, “I don’t want to be poor,” your subconscious will only hear, “Poor.” So make, turn your phrases to positive like, I, like, “I have…” if you just walk around and you’re like, “I’m wealthy,” like I or, I’m like in grateful. Gratitudes right? I’m grateful that I have running water. I am grateful that I have electricity. Um so I and you can say things like, I’m grateful that I have money in my bank account. I am grateful that I have $10 in my in my wallet. Like if you just think about the positive things, and you know, hey, maybe… the Jim Carrey thing has never worked for me where he like wrote himself the check for what is it? 25 grand, something like that, or a million dollars. I can’t remember what it is. But…

Lesley Logan
Yeah, that’s like a million. I think he wrote it. And he gave it to his dad or something. It was like there was something really touching about it. But anyways, (Clare: Yeah), I mean, I don’t know. It doesn’t work for me. Yeah

Clare Solly
Yeah, but maybe, but yeah, just turn it positive, like, “I have what I need,” or, “What I need will come for me,” or…, and the thing with manifesting too, is that our fight or flight response starts to kick in. And we start to problem solve, because we, you know, we need to solve the immediate, or we need to solve the soon upcoming, like, I only have two, two meals in my freezer, so I need to make sure that I get more than $10 in my bank account so I can have food for a couple of days. Well, just tell yourself where you have food right now, you’re fine, you can make it work. Like, we’ve all been in a place where we’ve had a scarcity of something, and we’ve all made it work. So…

Lesley Logan
Yeah, I think that’s really, if you can, I don’t know if anyone can hear my dogs barking, I’m so sorry. Welcome to working from home. But um, I think what’s really fascinating about you know, it’s really like 100% of time, living in a life where you only think positive is pretty impossible, but it’s very much turning that around, and like the subconscious is really maleable. And that if you do catch yourself saying something really negative, you can say several more things positive and like, outweigh that negative thoughts. And just like, you know, extra talk around that. And the other thing is, is that, like, I, I find that you said fight or flight and it made me think of like stress, and our brain also does not want to be stressed out. So if the thing that you’re wanting is actually causing you stress, because you’re afraid you’re not gonna have it (Clare Solly: Not gonna bring it to you) it’s gonna run away from that.

Clare Solly
Yeah, totally. Absolutely, it is. Um, and, I mean, I also do an exercise where I’m I meditate and I think of expansion. So and this is something if you’re not good at meditating, you don’t have to, like, sit down and get an complet… contemplative state. You can do it like, as you’re falling asleep, or like, if you’re like in the zone, on like your workout, or some sort of situation like brushing your teeth, you can even do it then. Like, or in the shower, we all have those moments where we’re just kind of like Zen and our wheels and our brain are kind of going and if you think about your, your bank account, or your credit card, or whatever, think of it as some sort of vessel. So some sort of space. So for me, mine is sort of, like, it’s sort of like a big warehouse, like I think of like those vast warehouses, or like a huge office building that’s like completely empty, and just waiting for someone to come in. And you can think of like your money or how much money you have on your credit card as like a pile in the corner. Right. So that’s, that’s what you’ve got. And if you think about how much space you have, and just tell yourself, I have so much space for money, I have so much space for wealth to come in for me. And you can actually sit there and mentally move the walls back and build yourself more space. And you can have like it can be a field with a fence around it. Or you can have a big outdoor space you can have a mountain with some sort of invisible force field or a valley or something, you know, whatever it is for you. And it sounds crazy. It sounds crazy and this just came to me a couple of months ago but I and I don’t do this every day I will add it into my meditation or or I’ll add it into my, my thinking as I’m falling asleep if the negative thoughts are coming in, and you know I’m listening to my my beach waves or my you know, if I’m not listening to a lead meditation, I just think about expanding my money vessels because credit cards and bank accounts are pretty much the same thing. A lot of people get so afraid of, “Oh my gosh, I have so much debt I have so much wracked up on my credit cards.” But honestly, it’s just more space, it’s just creating more space for you to create things. And it’s the more space you have the more room for money there is.

Lesley Logan
Yeah, no, you’re 100% I think a lot of people are raised like credit card debt is bad. And all of a sudden, well, let me just tell you, if you don’t use them, you also don’t have a credit score, so then you can’t even buy a house. So like, there’s this game you have to play. And if you think of it as a game, and you have fun with it, and you see those credit cards as like, as a way to continue to build something with a positive. And that’s very intentional spending, it’s very different than like, “Oh, I just really want to have this shirt that I don’t need.” Like, it’s different than that, like if you’re using this to like make your magic happen, or, or put it towards something that’s like the thing that you’re really wanting to do. And you have, as Clare mentioned earlier, this like positive energy towards that bill, right? Like, I, I make sure when Brad and I pay our taxes, I’m like, there’s nothing stressful about taxes, taxes are amazing, we get to pay them, how much money do we owe? Tell me how big it is… like, I don’t know. And it’s not like, I’m excited. It’s just that I want to stay excited on all the things and I think it’s really, I think it’s a mindset shift that a lot of people have to make, because they’re like, “Oh, I’m in credit card debt. And that’s bad.” And it’s like, “Well, you know, ish…” If you bought a bunch of like H&M clothes that are in one season out the next and maybe that wasn’t the best use of your credit, and your money. But if you’re using things to get an education or our get the computer, you need to like start working on your project, or take the course on how to paper mache puppy, like puppets, or something that… I don’t know what you want to do. Like, it’s not bad, if it’s something that you’re using to even be your meditative movement meditation, like that also can be good. Like, it’s just the energy you put towards it. Right? Um, I, I know that you like, you and I have definitely, as we mentioned, beginning have had many lives. You know, we’re shoe designers, you did acting near money mindset coach, one of the things, we don’t have to go too much into it, but I think it’s important is… you do write books. And there is a, to me, a self discipline to writing a book. And I’m not saying that, like, you’re the most perfect, self-disciplined person writing books. But I just thought, you know, so many people have a story that they want to share. But they feel like they can’t write or they don’t have the time to write, or they don’t even know where to start. And I just wondered if you could like, tap into that a little bit. Because I find that like written word about your life, or what you’ve done also is another way to see yourself in something. So I don’t know if we can talk a little bit about writing.

Clare Solly
Yeah, I mean, honestly, writing my first novel was probably one of the most vulnerable things I’ve ever done in my life. And I’ve done a lot… like, I am one person that will definitely, like, do so many vulnerable things, like be naked, boldly in front of people, um, literally and figuratively. Um, and my first novel, I started writing in 2012. I was seeing a guy and it, it didn’t turn out well. And I was doing The Artists Way. If you haven’t done it, look it up, it’s a fun process. It gets you, it gets you back on track. I’ve done it twice.

Lesley Logan
I love my morning pages. I love them.

Clare Solly
I love my morning pages. Yeah. And that’s that’s a great way to start too, if you have an idea, and you want to start just getting things down, just write. I mean, the artists way says write three pages a day… just start writing a page a day, just commit to a page. Because anybody can write a page while you’re, you know, waking up. I do mine half asleep anyway, like I’m sipping, I make my coffee and I start writing pages. Um, and that’s a great jumpstart. So yeah, my first novel was, it came out of writing these morning pages because I got so tired of saying, “Oh, I’m so tired of…” or, “I’ve, I’m so heartbroken and so whatever over this guy…” and, and he wasn’t, so wasn’t worth it. And…

Lesley Logan
They never are. They never are…

Clare Solly
Never…. And I started writing letters to myself or no sorry. I started writing letters to him, because I got tired of just complaining. So I was like, Well, okay, this is an actionable thing. I’m going to write letters to you. And my first novel is a fiction sort of romance, novel; time travel. Um, and I wasn’t satisfied with just the writing of the letter, so I started writing answers to myself back. And so some of those letters are actually the very end of my first novel, and I started, because we’re, you know, a subway culture in New York City, I was riding the subway at least an hour a day. And I would get out my notebook and I just write on the subway, like for an hour handwrite. And I wrote, I filled up two notebooks. And I thought, you know, this is, this is interesting, this is just a story that was coming out of me, had no intention of publishing it or sharing it with anybody. I started telling people. Um… that’s, it’s so funny, because I think that I, I wasn’t wanting to share it with people. But I was telling everybody that I was writing a book, because people started asking me about it. So that’s another step you can do, you can just start talking about it with people. If you start telling people that you’re writing a book, even if you just have an inkling of an idea or a page, they will help keep you honest, they will, what did I say? Slingshot! They will help slingshot you towards your goal. Um, and so I just kept writing, I typed it out, I spent a weekend and I typed out all my journals, and then finished writing it. It took me about two and a half years to write. And then I put it in a drawer and sat on it for a good year and a half and didn’t know what to do. Because I you were the only person I actually knew who had published a book. And I, I didn’t, we weren’t really, like we weren’t talking a whole lot right then. And, um…

Lesley Logan
I think that was probably around when I was like, it was just post me being homeless. (Clare: Yeah.) And so I was a little like, that’s just that like that. That’s what we’re slingshoters because it’s like, okay, you slung shot me. And then I like, did the thing. And then you want to publish your book. And I was like, oh, this, this how I did it. It’s not hard. You actually went through a different services that’s better than mine.

Clare Solly
Yeah, well, and we were actually like, we were across the country. And our, like, we had sort of, like, fallen, like, we haven’t fallen off as friends. But we just sort of like lost track of each other. It was just sort of whatever. So I just I didn’t know, I didn’t know, um, and by random circumstance, right, which I feel is random. But looking back, it’s what I needed in the moment, and I probably manifested it. I ran into a random stranger at an industry party, I was working in the wedding industry at that point. And this guy was a friend of the host, who had nothing to do with the industry, had stopped by for like, 30 minutes of this party. And I caught him right before he was leaving. He was like standing nearby the women’s restroom, and at a table and I asked him if he would watch my wine because I didn’t want to take my glass of wine in the bathroom. And he, he’s like, “Sure, I’m going to be here for like, three minutes. If you’re back before then I’ll watch it.” And so I went to the restroom came back. And I started I thanked him and started talking to him. And he was like, “Oh, yeah, I’m, I’m a novelist.” And I was like, tell me more. And turns out, he was, four-time, almost five-times self published novelist at the time, that one of the biggest tips he gave me, he’s like, just publish it. He’s like, just to get it out there because you can go back and you can change anything in the guts of it. Or you can change anything. Like, you can revise it, you can go back, like it does not have to be perfect which blew my mind at the time. Because I thought, “Oh, wait, it has to go through an agent,” and, “It has to be perfect.” And it has to like, no, it doesn’t know write the book….

Lesley Logan
I love that you brought that up, because it’s, I am, we are currently, you know, we, at the time I’m talking to you, I just finished editing the book that I put out in 2013. Because, you know, some things have changed. Like, you don’t need a web page anymore, you actually just need a website. And like, Twitter is not necessarily the way to talk to clients, because Instagram is around, right. So like, there’s some things that like needed to be updated as far as the world we live in today. And then a couple other things. And, and it’s true. It’s my book, and I got to, I get to edit it, and it’s gonna go back out there. And, and it is just about getting it done. Because the first one is always like the most, like make it the most precious. We make it like has to be this perfect thing. And since you publish this book, first of all, many people have bought it. It’s done really well. And you’ve published another one.

Clare Solly
Yeah, yeah. And my second one, the second novel after I came home, I was in between jobs, and I sat down and I was like, I am going to write this book in a month and a half, and I sat down I gave myself a page goal every day. I wasn’t going crazy. I outlined it. I gave myself an A-to-Z outline. I didn’t follow it exactly. But I wrote for like three hours a day and follow this outline. And in six weeks I had a novel (Lesley: Yeah) and like all the tools you need are out there. Like you can find an editor, you can find and they don’t have to find an expensive one. Yet, If you do, um, I don’t suggest having your friends be your editors. They’re great as like a first read.

Lesley Logan
No, but definitely let someone do that. And I’m like, that’s that that’s the wrong “waste.”

Clare Solly
Yeah. Because like, even though I love my friends, I will like, they’ll say, “Yeah, let me edit for you.” And then they disappear with the book for like a year. (Lesley: Right, right.) Wait, I had a deadline.

Lesley Logan
Yeah. No, it’s, it’s true, like you do need outside people. But it is, you know, I think, I think my favorite part of the whole thing is that, you know, you met this person randomly, but not randomly. It was, you know, that, what are the odds and also, of course, and then it’s like, just get it done, because then you could do this next one, and you did it faster, and you had deadlines. And there’s so much I love about that. Because even if you don’t meet a deadline that you gave yourself, just the act of working towards it really helps get you so much clarity around what it is that you’re doing. Okay, so, Clare first, where can everyone follow you? Find you? Obviously, if you, if they like wanting some money mindset coaching, or some book coaching and where should they go?

Clare Solly
You can find me on my website, it’s YouWontBeSolly.com so it’s, it’s all together, no apostrophe in won’t. And my last name is S O L L Y. I’m sure you’ve got you’ll put it in the notes or something but YouWontBeSolly.com.

Lesley Logan
I love, I love your, I love your URL. So much fun. Okay, so this is all really fun. People got some really great like inspiration towards manifesting towards also seeing that you could do multiple things in your lifetime. And it’s awesome and positive. But what what is something or a couple things that people can do today, this week to actually Be It Till They See It. Anything that’s bold or executable or intrinsic or targeted?

Clare Solly
I mean, I think you can do it on small in small steps. Like you can go big, you can go Yes, I’m gonna move across the country. But in reality it took me two years to like gear up to get there right. You can publish a book it’s gonna take time. I think part of it is be realistic but don’t doubt yourself. So go Okay, yeah, I want to write a book. How much time do I have to do it? Um, can I get up 30 minutes earlier in my day or can I give myself like my extend my bedtime by 30 minutes shut myself in a room. Even if it’s your bathroom and just write like just commit to writing? And when it comes to money, don’t be afraid of it just know that it flows, it flows in and out. And if you have a good, good isn’t right. If you feel solid and what you need the money for… if you have a course you want to take or a course you want to teach or something you want to do to your house or something… like, if you are solid in what that is that money will show up for you too. If you were solid in your energy, the other energy will show up and I think that’s generally in either in the book writing or in the money manifestation worlds that I talk about. If you show up, stuff will show up for you.

Lesley Logan
That is, that is beautiful. That is exactly, that is it. If you show up stuff will show up for you. Mic drop! Amazing moment. My dear friend Clare, thank you so much for hanging out with me this afternoon. And thank you everyone who’s listening. Please do us a big huge favor and screenshot this podcast, tag in tag Clare – her Instagram handle be in the show notes. It is @youwontbesolly on Instagram. Yes. Great. She’s nodding yes. Okay. So and I’m the be it pod so it’s @be_it_pod. So tag us both with your takeaway so that Clare can see like, what about this podcast really resonated with you, we can literally show up for you in high five you in the DMs. It’s so important, and it helps us get this message out to everyone who needs to Be It Till You See It. Until next time, see you everyone.

 

 

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